TWO-BROWNGIRLS

DO WE NEED TO REDEFINE ROMANCE?

Aaminah:

When it comes to relationships and romance, we live in such a distorted world. Whether it’s on Instagram or Facebook, its so common to see couples showing pictures of expensive gifts or lavish surprises from their other half, and it’s sad really, that money has become the measure of romance. We’ve become so mesmerised by huge celebrity inspired acts of love. I get it, it’s nice to receive expensive gifts (and give them of course..hehehe) but if thats all we reduce romance to, then don’t we just have a distorted materialistic and unfortunately, competitive idea of what romantic gestures are? 

My husband loves surprising me (he kept our honeymoon destination under wraps until the morning of) but I love the smaller more simpler gestures that crop up during daily life. Whether it’s an impromptu love note, a glance across the table when we’re having dinner with family, reassuring words or finding a surprise chocolate in my bag, these are reminders that acts of love can and do exist outside of material things.  

Seetal: 

This is again inspired by the article that Mehar sent us because the writer recounts that she noticed her parents falling in love when there were certain intimate or romantic gestures. It just got us thinking - what is love without these gestures?

So last week I was proposed to :) the picture above is a beautiful spot in Wales that was so surreal and struck us both when we came across it. A secretly planned casual road trip later, he popped the question. It was raining and a little windy but it was perfect. We’re both known to be very ‘chilled out’ when it comes to our relationship and I think this means that we find love in the little things. Perhaps in the easiness, harmony and flow of our interactions. Each to their own but I think romance or the ‘honeymoon period’ is definitely not a phase, but it’s a wave that keeps coming back in reassuring ways. Romance is in a glance, a touch or simply a space. It can be in anything that you want to find it in, as long as you are open enough to receive it. 

- A&S x 

Hmmm..what shall we write the next post on? Dealing with the in-laws or…feminism in marriage?