When Vikas and I were looking at wedding invitations, I found a designer I really liked, we agreed on a price and then she asked me for the wording of the invitation. So I started researching what you put on a wedding invitation. And I didn’t know how to include my parents. So I asked Vikas if we could skip that part but you could tell that bothered them, and he wanted to include his. So I ignored it for a week hoping it would go away. I did some more research and according to proper etiquette you don’t include deceased parents on a wedding invitation. Also, almost all of the scenarios I found were based on having one deceased parent. But, I have for better or worse never been hung up on “proper” etiquette. So I did some more research and decided on this: 

Elaine Elinor Ellis

daughter of the late Del J. Ellis and Maureen Ellis

Which is likely the best way to include your deceased, divorced parents on your wedding invitation. It is often the little things that still hang me up. I dread having people ask me where my parents live, and usually side step it by saying where I grew up. It’s not that I’m not ok with it. It’s been 10 years since they’ve passed so I’ve come to terms with it. It’s that it’s incredibly awkward for other people that have brought up. They feel bad because everyone assumes that when you’re in your twenties or thirties that your parents are living. And they feel like they hurt you by mentioning your parents. Which I actually love talking about my parents because they were hilarious, warm people with a lot of great stories.