My last night in Charlottesville I figured out a lot of things I wanted to change in my life while talking to Amy. Two and a half days and two nights in the woods by myself gave me time to really think about all these things. There were some life changes that needed to happen.
The first thing that came to mind was I wanted to be a better “mom” to my cat, Oreo. I know this probably sounds silly, but until then I didn’t realize how guilty I felt for not giving her as much attention as I probably should. She is an amazing cat who rubs her little kitty face on mine when I’m crying, and doesn’t stop until I stop crying. The look on her feline face when she looks at me to see if I’m still crying is one of love and concern. Yet in the mornings when I first get up and she is rubbing all over me trying to get some loving I push her away and tell her to leave me alone until I wake up. Not acceptable. When I’m busy around the house and she wants to be petted I ignore her until I’m done. Also, not acceptable. I decided this has to change.
I need to change the way I ate. I don’t think this is the solution to my binge eating, but I think it might help the problem. Often times when I eat I am doing something else. I am on my computer, reading a book or magazine, watching TV or a movie or messing around on my phone, and sometimes I’m even standing up. How can I possibly be enjoying the flavors of my food if I’m not even paying attention to the food I’m eating or the process of consuming it? Perhaps this is why I eat more than I should because I want to enjoy my food, but because I pay so little attention while I’m eating I have to eat more in order to feel the same amount of enjoyment. I don’t know if this makes sense to anybody else. Either way, I’m going to give it a try. My goal is to always eat sitting down and distraction free.
As I’ve mentioned before, I want to do more in general and with my life. Lately, although I have been working on it, I haven’t been as productive as I could be. I waste a lot of time or spend entirely too much time relaxing. If I want to do all the things I want to do I need time to do them all. I also need to make sure I take care of my responsibilities as well. In order to this I need to use my time more wisely, more efficiently.
The first part of this is just doing what I need to do. I often put off washing dishes after I make a meal (when I’m home alone) because I can do them later. Same with folding and putting away laundry, picking up my dirty clothes from the bathroom after I shower and other little things around the house. I need to stay on top of these things. The couple of minutes it takes to get these things done isn’t going to take away from other things I need to do. I also need to get certain things in order, literally. I need to clean and organize my office and clean my disaster of a car.
The second part of using my time more wisely is to spend less time surfing the internet. I am always looking up random thoughts or questions that pop up into my head, or over-researching a purchase or a trip or something else. I need to stop doing this. Yes, there are times when I do gain knowledge from the hour spent on my laptop after breakfast, but there are better things I could doing that I want to be doing.
I need to ride my bike more. Self transportation makes me happy. It is also good for me and the environment, and it saves money on fuel for Frankie. I kept telling myself I didn’t ride my bike because it was winter and cold. Lame excuse! I have so much gear for cold weather riding that I should have been riding my bike to school and work whenever I had a chance. It does take more time to ride my bicycle places than to drive, so this change is partially dependent on the last one I talked about. Once I get better at managing my time and using it efficiently, the extra time it takes to ride my bike somewhere shouldn’t be an issue.
Sleep. I must go to bed earlier. For some strange reason I like to stay up even when I’m tired and ready for bed. I don’t accomplish anything useful during this time. I just stay up, distracting myself in any possible way. This only happens when Zach isn’t home, but still, it has to stop. This also ties into effectively utilizing my time, but the bigger part is not being tired. I force myself to get up at a decent hour after staying up way too late and then I’m a zombie for the whole day. How amazing would it be to go to bed at a decent hour and get up early, refreshed and go about my day? Probably just as amazing as it felt on the trail when I was asleep by 8 or 9pm and got up around 6 or 7am.
I know I can make these changes happen. I want them. The time has come to actually work towards my goals in life. I used to tell myself I have decades to do all the traveling, exploring, volunteering, etc. I want to do. The truth is I don’t know if I have decades or not. Even if I do, why put it off? I will not put it off any longer, but as with everything, these changes will take time. As always, I am a work in progress.