Whatever it maybe you’re going after, I believe in order to reach your full potential we must eliminate self worth from what we do and fully commit to the passion of the very activity.
Does this mean that we shouldn’t have self worth? Absolutely not. We should at all times work towards having self worth in everything we do. I say have pride in everything you do from the way you wake up to the way you fall asleep and everything in between.
However, I think it is harmful to place your entire self worth on the shoulders of one aspect of your life or one singular pursuit. Simply because everything has ups and downs. Everything is consistently in a state of fluctuation. Therefore to attempt to stabilize one’s value on anything is setting up oneself to interpret the natural path of growth as an ultimate failure or ultimate success.
The ideal would be to be at peace with the true self within every moment.
What is the perfect you? Along with most people, we find ourselves fantasizing about this person we hope to be. Making those repetitive proclamations of “wish i did this, wish I could, wish I was, wish i didn’t.” Everything we do well and everything we don’t do well makes up the perfect you. Strengths and flaws shouldn’t be viewed as mere obstacles and highlights but rather simply the pieces that make a perfectly balanced whole - whether we’re fully aware of the precise structure that is us. Furthermore, our own strengths and flaws fluctuate as consistently as anything outside of ourselves therefore we can’t even rely on those to define our self worth moment to moment.
So it seems I’ve walked us into a corner about gauging our own self worth. If nothing can be relied on to be consistent, how should one find and visualize our worth in the self?
Use nothing. Stop gauging our worth. Simply start letting yourself know that you’re AWESOME. There are several ways to go about this-find your own-but if we’re going to live in a world that is painted with inconsistency, I suggest attempting to be consistent with reminding yourself of your value. Don’t wait for a great moment to happen/perceived victory or a low down failure that has you dragging your knuckles in the dirt to take a shot of the self worth potion. Always let yourself know you are AWESOME. Always be picking yourself up. Always be giving yourself high fives. Always be proud. No matter what you’re doing, when you’re wrong or right know that you’re perfectly awesome and growing. Don’t weigh down your worth with any event or action. Everything you do and nothing you do is you and it is awesome. They say everything has been done before; I say no it hasn’t because I haven’t done it yet.
If you are full of self worth, who cares about the outcome of everything you do. It will all have a greater value if you have a greater value for yourself. Therefore, if you do not use your dreams and the steps it takes to reach your dreams as a gauge to measure you’re self worth you’ll be free to enjoy the fullest passion when engaged in that pursuit and when actively participating in whatever your personal dreams call for.
Passion is the key. Self worth is up to you. Dreams are easier achieved than anyone can comprehend.