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Short as hell, asexual cis-woman, with an unhealthy shipping addiction, and a habit of making way too many fucking AUs.

Not a spoiler-free zone, as I am far from a diligent tagger.

Trying to get back into writing, after letting things rust for a few years. I have a tendancy to hyper-focus on whatever happens to catch my fancy, meaning I might disappear entirely for, um, weeks to months... This blog is typically 90% whatever my current fandom of choice is, and mostly runs on queue.

To be honest, things are really scary right now, and I've taken to treating my blog as a get-away. I know there's a lot of very important stuff happening that we all really need to talk about, but... If you ever just want to sit around, and scroll through fandoms and stupid jokes and ignore everything for a little while, I'll be right here.

(Fair warning: if your blog uses a default icon, has no description, and no visible posts or likes, I will probably assume you're a bot.)

Open to questions~! Submissions welcome!

September 19, 2014

"Developing the ability to piss other people off (or even to RISK pissing them off) without knuckling under is pretty much the Holy Grail of emotionally abused kids, I think. We are programmed to respond at the first sign of displeasure, and we don’t have the faith in ourselves and our decisions to weather the storm– or even a mild sprinkle– so we tend to freak out as if the world was ending if a cloud crosses the sun. We freak out about the possibility that we’re wrong, that we’re doing the wrong things, that we’re making the wrong choices, that we’ll make someone angry, because there’s this awful certainty lurking at the back of our minds that says “If you do the wrong thing, you will be in TROUBLE.” And being in TROUBLE is the worst thing, ever, because that part of our brain is forever three years old where our parents are our whole world and being in TROUBLE is the end of everything.

It takes a lot of practice to gain that sort of gut-level knowledge that we’re strong enough to handle this stuff and that the world doesn’t end if someone else is angry at us. It’s not an innate quality that some people have and some don’t; people who grow up in non-abusive homes learn it when they’re young, is all, and the rest of us have to learn it when we’re grown up. And it sucks, and it’s not fair, and it’s not fun, but there’s no getting around it, and you can do it, you CAN.

You can piss people off.

You can be wrong.

You can fuck up.

You can do stuff that everyone thinks is weird.

AND IT IS ALL OKAY. The world won’t end. You will still be a good person. And the likelihood is that most of the things you do WON’T be wrong, and WON’T piss people off, and WON’T be up-fuckery, and WON’T be weird, but if it is? The hell with it; fix it, if necessary, and move on."

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