Jay's Semi-Charmed Kind of Life

October 1, 2014

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This perfectly summarizes why I love the Simpsons and hate Family Guy.
Yup.
So this.
I watched that episode with my family and I could just feel how uncomfortable everyone was. Honestly, it was a really jarring, unpleasant episode.
Homer is a terrible dad. So is Peter. But Homer’s saving grace has always been that he tries—he’s bad at it and he fucks it up a lot, but he loves his family and he wants to be better than he is.
One of my favorite Homer moments is in “Diatribe of a Mad Housewife.” Tl;dr Marge writes a steamy romance novel starring herself and Ned, and when Homer finds out, he chases down Ned and, rather than attack him, asks him to teach him how to be a better husband.
There’s some part of his stupid self that wants to do better.
I never got that impression with Peter. Instead, the family has gotten more and more abusive towards Meg. It’s really unsettling for me when I started realizing that’s what happens sometimes in abusive families. Abusers sometimes single out one child to abuse, and quite often the other family members take the abuser’s side. After all, it’s easier to side with an abuser than to run the risk of becoming the target yourself.
There’s never really a point where it seems like Peter cares at all that his shitty behavior impacts his family. It actually seems to have gotten worse over the years. He expects everyone to clean up his messes because that’s always what happens; there’s really no reason for him not to be shitty.
And it’s easy to see how Meg is affected. She doesn’t have much of a character, really, because so much her screen time is devoted to being abused. The bits of character development all seem to hinge on her being this sad, neglected person who’s trying her best but never really gets any help from anyone. Quite the opposite; there have been a lot of episodes where her family sabotages any attempts to be herself.
It can be easy to forget how awful this behavior is when the only context is the show itself (frankly, everyone on Family Guy is kind of terrible). Seeing it played against the Simpsons, who are a flawed and dysfunctional but ultimately loving family, was painful to watch.
And the thing is that so many young men and teenage boys find Family Guy to be the “funniest” show imaginable. They quote it endlessly and go on and on about it because that’s how the show was designed.
But along with all this crude humor they love so much, these boys are taking in normalized emotional, verbal, and physical abuse and domestic violence. All these things are a joke to them. A lot of shows are bad with this, but I think Family Guy is one of the all-time worst. Abuse and domestic violence is nothing more than a punchline. It’s not just a normalized thing in the plotline. It is the literal joke.
Plus all of the two female characters in this show—Meg, Lois—are only punchlines. (Haha insecure teenage girl! Haha hot mom! How original.) Nothing extremely wild and crazy happens to them, unless these wild things show just how “useless” and “silly” they are in the end.
I hate how abuse is handled in this show. I hate how women are treated in this show. I hate how racist it is. How homophobic it is. How crude it is. How it’s not OFF THE AIR ALREADY. And how obsessed men are with it. And how easy men are taking it all in.
I hate this show so much. I hate it hate it hate it!!