Hi there, Anon! Malinda here. That’s great that you want to write characters that way — I think that’s the best way to write them, as people, not issues. I’ve blogged about this before, so I hope you don’t mind if I direct you to some links at my website:
Write from the gut, not from fear of prejudice
On agendas, social issues and real-life awkwardness
What does “authentic” mean, anyway?
On avoiding the exotic in “Huntress”
Elements of queer romance
Writing about race in speculative fiction
Taking the homophobia out of fantasy
Avoiding LGBTQ stereotypes in YA fiction
There’s a lot there to start with!