Kink Praxis

"[Coming out] didn’t seem quite so straightforward to me. Perhaps it was because I am really proud of who I am, and I feel like I am a fully happy person, that I was able to look at the other ways of living my life. I know that if I had a choice to be straight, I wouldn’t choose it. Even if I don’t tell certain members of my extended family about my sexuality, I don’t view myself as in the closet, in a dark place that I must escape from. Far from it, this ‘closet’ is full of precious things, like things you could never afford to buy! It’s my treasure chest. The way I see it, rather than me needing to move out of the closet, to make my sexuality public to everyone, including my parents, instead I get to choose who open the door to, and who to invite to ‘come in’ to my life. The different metaphor took away the pressure I had been feeling. I no longer feel a pressure to ‘come out’ to my entire family, and instead I have many precious people who I have invited to ‘come in’ to my life. I am hoping that other people in my situation don’t feel the pressure of these ‘games of truth’ to make a public move that doesn’t fit for them. I like the fact that I choose people to ‘come in’ to my life. Importantly, I choose people who I think are valuable to support me and share things that are important to me."