Stonehill’s Inbox

Here are some of my favorite submissions from the past week…

Stonehill,

I’m shacking up with a cute fridge, but I know he’s not the one. Are you a believer in guilt free sex? My girls tell me I’m wasting my time, but I have nothing else going on anyway. (And the guy’s got skills ☺)

What are your thoughts?

-Missy

Missy,

We’ve evolved over millions of years to want one thing: sex. That’s just reality. (And biology) If you found someone you enjoy shacking up with, I think it’s great. As long as you accept it for what it is: sex.

I’ve met countless girls who talked about how they didn’t want anything more from the guy they were shagging, but deep down inside, they wanted something more.

And it inevitably ends up as a disaster for two reasons… 1, they end up heart-broken. 2, they waste all that time by not looking for a guy who actually has a chance of being the one.

If you want marriage and a couple of little coolers in your future, just be honest with yourself. This guy is not leading you on, so don’t expect more and act like a victim later.

If truly don’t want anything more than sex from this guy, and you’re truly capable of putting of your best effort into finding the one (even though you have the comfort of a lover in your life), enjoy.

Stonehill,

Love how spot on you are. Is it from years of practice or is there a metric we can all use?

Cheers,

-Jenn

Hey Jenn,

Thanks for the kudos. It’s a bit of both. As I always say, a fridge by no means provides the full picture of someone, but you can pick up some fun clues and insight.

Yes, I have been checking fridges for over 20 years. (And practice might not make perfect on this front, but it sure helps) Plus, I oversee Sales and Biz Dev for a men’s lifestyle publication.

Thus, it’s been my job for years to understand a brand’s target demo and media plan. So when I see a brand in someone’s fridge, I see clues into their demo, the publications they read, even the shows they watch.

Nothing is definitive, but the more concentric circles you can draw and the more those circles overlap, the higher the odds are that you can nail down some solid insight into the fridge owner.

We’re all dating detectives. i just find one’s fridge to offer the most clues if you know what to look for.

Please keep submitting your fridges, comments and dating adventures!

stonehill@checktheirfridge.com

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