#DateTipTuesdays

Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

We all want sex.

How is this a dating tip? Cause the more you believe this, the more sex you’ll have.

In general, the less of a big deal we make something out to be, the easier it is for us to get it, whether it’s a job, a fitness goal or a person we find attractive.

The people who make sex out to be some exotic hard-to-get act have one thing in common: they rarely have sex. They think it’s some holy grail and that’s their problem.

No matter how hot that person is across the bar, they want sex as much as you do. They might not want it from you, but they want it. The more you realize we’re all in the same boat with the same desires, and same insecurities, the more you can have fun getting to know someone and the less you feel like you have to impress them.

I’m not saying that sex is not important or lacks meaning or isn’t special. I’m just saying it’s a natural act that we’re all wired to want. We’ve evolved over millions of years to want sex. We just need the right excuse to have it. For women, that excuse might be a sense of humor. For men, it might a bit easier to come by…like a heartbeat.

So many dating obstacles come from seeing the opposite sex as, well, opposites. Like they’re some exotic species with higher standards that we place on a higher level. It’s just not the case.

As a guy, there are 2 facts that took longer to learn than necessary:
1. Women deuce. (Which can be a dating tip in itself)
2. Women want sex as much as men do.

Every time you meet someone new, remind yourself that they want what you want and they’re just as human. They want love, sex, passion, friendship, laughter and so on. Again, they might not want it from you, but they want it.

It’s empowering to believe that. Cause once you believe that, you can just enjoy getting to know someone, for your enjoyment, rather than for their approval. I’m not saying butterflies in the belly will cease to exist. But the more you see someone on your level, the less nervous you are and the more you can be yourself.

And by taking sex off the pedestal and anyone who can provide that ‘magical’ experience off the pedestal with it, the more relaxed you’ll be.

Remember, we wall want sex. The excuse is up to you.

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