#DateTipTuesdays
Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge
Today’s Tip: Find Communal Tables
As I touched on last week, when I was single, I loved going to bars and restaurants with communal tables.
Why? It took the most awkward step out of meeting someone: the approach.
It’s hard to approach someone no matter how smooth you are. All these thoughts can pop in your head…
- Do they see you coming?
- Are you interrupting their conversation?
- Once you start chatting, do you sit, or have that you-standing, her-sitting, you feeling like a douchebag thing going on?
The approach has been done with expertise and will continue to be in the future.
But why set the bar so much higher than necessary? In general, we all love meeting new people. We might not be looking to sleep with new people, but we still enjoy meeting them. In the day of social media, when there’s less interaction than ever, we’re hungry to be part of a community.
And when someone sits at a community table, the odds are they’re not looking for privacy. So my tip today is to seek these tables out.
When you’re sitting down next to someone, it’s much easier to say ‘hi’. And if a conversation happens, great. If not, no loss. Either way, it takes the pressure off of having to put yourself out on a limb.
There’s already low-hanging fruit to talk about. What are they eating? Is it good? What’s that old-school looking cocktail?
We’ve become a society that’s obsessed with food and drink. And here is the perfect spot to share those thoughts and have fun doing it.
Plus, from naturally being in the middle of each other’s conversations, it doesn’t give you the green light to interrupt, but moments do arise when it’s natural to chime in.
Don’t know where to find communal tables? Just do a Google search for your city and they’ll pop up. Everyone from Yelp to Chow.com, Eater to your local city magazine covers them.
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