This morning it struck me that feeling sad and terrified and lonely, and reminiscing about the loss of someone that you can never get back–for whatever reason– is the emotional equivalent of gluttony. Letting sadness wash over you as you think about what you miss about someone is like eating an entire pint of Ben & Jerry’s by yourself. It feels good–but it is terrible for you. It makes you fixate, it keeps you in the past, and it distracts from now. So when you feel that way, walk away. When the idea of indulging in a hundred tears seems like the only thing that will make it all okay, just say no.

Pick up a book, or a project, or a skateboard. Get free, and get down to investing in you instead of indulging a loss.