May 2nd, 2013
Job Enthusiast

Get to the Heart of Your Job Loss.

imageYou’ve got angst. Plenty of angst and no job. It’s understandable. You lost your job after years of blood, sweat, tears—and a rough commute in all sorts of weather and travel conditions. Tossed aside like yesterday’s dead fish.

OK, true. But that was yesterday. This is today.

Take heart in knowing that people are beginning to recoup and find work again. Even older folks. Even folks who are 55+. It takes a while to put the feelings of resentment and reluctance to go forth to a place where you can compartmentalize and start looking for new work.

Let’s examine some of feelings people go through during this arduous process of letting go and moving forward. Is it the job or are you really mad at yourself?

Guilt.  Guilt that erodes self esteem. Perhaps you feel badly that you really didn’t like your job anymore but you wanted to leave it on your terms—not theirs. Perhaps you felt that the workplace or industry was changing so quickly that it seemed to pass you by. Perhaps deep down you felt a resistance to new technology even though the handwriting was on the wall and these changes were incorporated in your business and all around you. Perhaps you lost interest in your field of work or just didn’t like the work environment anymore.

Reluctance. Resistance to social media and growing contacts and connections that can prove invaluable to you with the click of a mouse, a phone call or face-to-face over coffee.  Resistance to new things makes you isolate and feel worse. What’s more, you become alienated and feel out of the loop and no longer on the cutting edge. You hide for fear of being “out there” and “exposed.” You miss a lot of contacts and opportunities you may never know about.

Fear. Labels, like the laid off stigma….”I’ve never been out of work in the 40 years since I started working as a teenager…all my life!” you cry. “I haven’t told any of my friends or family. Shame takes over. Unemployed. A failure…thinking it is all your fault that you don’t have a job.

Low self esteem. Shame takes over and you can no longer stick up for yourself in a healthy way.

Stop! Halt! Slay those demons!

Dare to believe in second chances. It’s only after introspecting and self-examination that you can begin to get up, dust yourself off and try, try, try again. Get into some networking groups, get active on Linked In and get into some skills classes in interviewing and computer training. They are free at your local One Stop Career Center (www.servicelocator.org).

The law of averages dictates that you will hit pay dirt. But you’ve got to lay those demons to rest. Now!

-By The Job Enthusiast Who Won’t Rest Till Everyone Is Put To Work!

Read about more helpful resources from The Job Enthusiast here.

Art by Mark Serdze

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