Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.
I reblog every time
this guy deserves more than a certificate
I love this.
Mmmmm… no.
Okay, yeah, sometimes girls are dicks. Absolutely.
BUT … there’s a couple of problems with this.
First, clearly the girl isn’t worth this guy’s time. Her behavior was immature and rude, and took advantage of his generosity on repeated occasions – yet clearly he kept going back for more.
Second, there’s an implication here, however subtly stated, that because he did all these things for her she’s clearly the bitch because she never went out with him. Except, considering all the stuff he did to try to get her attention he starts coming off a little like the guy who just can’t take “no” for an answer. As a girl, that’s NEVER the kind of guy you want to go out with. Maybe she just wasn’t attracted to him. Maybe she was looking for something else. Maybe she wasn’t ready to date. Maybe he smells like Band-Aids. Whatever. She doesn’t OWE him anything (except the cost of two concert tickets, because, sorry, that crosses the line).
Guys who play the “Nice Guy” card piss me off a little. They imply that because they are there, and they’re so super nice, that the girl is a bitch for not dating them, when she has EVERY RIGHT not to date them. It’s also a little creepy, because you know they’re just waiting for her to feel sad, or desperate enough, or like he’s convenient because he’s there so that they can get what they want.
I say this from experience. Because even though I’m a girl, I’ve BEEN there. I’ve DONE this. I have been the doormat, the convenient friend, the “nice girl” that the guy wouldn’t date even if I was the last girl on the planet. And I kind of hate myself for it. Because a.) I’m a better person than a doormat and b.) I felt like I was owed some kind of relationship as a reward just for persistency.
I say this even though some of my favorite fictional relationships have gone this way at some point. The media loves this trope, and it glorifies it to some extent.
That doesn’t make it right.
I learned not to do this the hard way, and looking back now, I’d slap my younger self if I could.
So, I applaud this kid for calling her on her bullshit.
However I kind of want to yell at him, too. Don’t be a doormat. Date girls who actually like and appreciate you. If someone is this much of a bitch, don’t waste your time on them. Because if you keep doing it, even after it’s clear she’s said “no” then you’re venturing into dangerously creepy territory and YOU become the asshole.
How much you want to bet that if this girl apologized to him right now, he’d date her in a heartbeat?
Sometimes “nice guys” finish last because they trail behind on purpose, waiting to pick up the shattered pieces of some girl when someone else breaks her. That doesn’t make you a nice guy. It makes you a vulture. And vultures are creepy.
(via mikeywaves)
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