Every person you meet is a soul on a journey with many of the same wants and needs as you.
Reminders. Our Journey to Balance
Every person you meet is a soul on a journey with many of the same wants and needs as you.
Reminders. Our Journey to Balance
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#compassion #empathy #kindness #awareness #mindfulness #reflections #well liked postsIt’s time to stop blaming and shaming - and realize that some people are lacking the necessary social and emotional awareness function and thrive…
IT’S TIME WE RECOGNIZE THE SUFFERING IN OTHERS ~
We’re usually aware of our own problems. We’ve become very familiar with our own suffering. Broadly defined, suffering can mean anything from physical to mental pain …
-The usual migraines we get
-Anxiety of performing a job well done
-The agony of having a family member living with cancer
-A divorce
-The loss of a child
Certainly, there is more to life than suffering, including great joy and fulfillment; still, we are so ‘attached’ to our suffering.
But recognizing, acknowledging and even accepting the suffering in others? That is NOT so easy.
Sure, every day we are bombarded with doom and gloom - horrific news and pictures of disaster, murder, and grief. Ironically, we have become desensitized to all this horror.
We have become numb to the suffering of our planet. What’s more, close to home, the same is happening on a daily basis in ways which we may not be aware. It’s easy to tune out or simply miss the stress and strain, unease and anger, in the people we work, live and even sleep with.
Of course this creates tensions and problems. Why? We all want to be heard, acknowledged, seen. Often what we want most is for another person to bear witness to our pain - We want someone who just gets it - who gets us! It’s incredibly painful when that does not happen - akin to an open wound that won’t heal - a deep sorrow from which we cannot escape.
On a very real, raw, and practical level, suffering that goes unnoticed is extremely dangerous because it means that a person is unlikely to get the much needed help.
What’s more, not seeing the suffering in others harms us as well.
-We miss information about the nature of life
-We miss chances to have your heart opened
-We miss learning what your impact on others might be.
Small issues that could have been resolved early grow until they blow up. People don’t like having their pain overlooked. People don’t like feeling they are invisible!
This is when people are most likely to over-react.
This is when people/ the affected people, will most likely retaliate or seem aloof or even tactless when 'the other ones’ are experiencing pain and suffering.
Wars and troubles that seemed so distant come rippling across our own borders and into our own backyards !!!
To paraphrase John Donne, if you don’t heed the faraway tolling of the bell for others, it will eventually come tolling for thee.
SO HOW DO WE DO THIS? WHAT DO WE DO?
This week, I challenge you to walk slow…
You may seem aloof and detached by doing this… do it anyway.
Observe. Pay attention!
-At work
-Walking down the street
-In the mall
-On the train
-In the subway
-Across the dinner table.
Notice the weariness, the bracing against life, the wariness, irritability, the tension and anxiety.
Sense the suffering behind the words.
Feel in your body what it would be like for you to have the life of the other person.
Go deep.
Be careful not to become overwhelmed. Don’t go so deep that you cannot get out. Take this conscious awareness in SMALL DOSES
Cultivate mindfulness a few seconds at a time.
Make no mistake, empathy and compassion though in most cases innate must be cultivated and nurtured.
If at times a deep feeling of sorrow arises, bring to mind some of the happy truths of life, or the sense of being with people who love you.
After the mental break, go back in …
Open up again to the suffering around you.
-To a child who feels like an afterthought,
-The worker who fears a layoff
-A couple caught up in anger.
Stop Yourself! Don’t glide over faces on the evening news. See the pain and the suffering in the eyes looking back at you.
Watch and Listen to those closest to you.
Could you be part of the problem?
How does it feel to open up to others?
Are you finding this gets you closer to others?
Are you finding more kindness coming back your way?
Are you finding yourself more grounded as a result of tapping into your sense of empathy, compassion, tact, understanding?
Is your ego healthier?
Are you standing in a solid foundation of personal truth? More accepting? Less judgement?
TAKE HEART - OPENING UP TO OTHERS’ PAIN AND SUFFERING IS ONE OF THE BRAVEST THINGS WE WILL EVER DO…
BE AWARE - THIS IS A KEY COMPONENT OF BALANCE
I wish you Peace and Infinite Blessings on Your Journey …..
Everything we do involves making a choice and every choice has a consequence. Therefore, freedom of choice is both a privilege and great responsibility.
Reflections, Our Journey to Balance
When the storm passes, put your energy into rebuilding your life, don’t waste time looking back.
Reflections, Our Journey to Balance
Beloved Friends,
The opposite of anger is not calmness, it’s empathy …
Reflections …
Never hide your light for fear of what others may think of you. Let it shine and be a reflection of what is possible.
Copyright © 2014 Maritza Alvarez
You will always come across who and what you were were meant to find… the when or how are not as important …
Blessings, Our Journey to Balance
To have the best life, you must give the best of yourself to life …
Evening Thought … Our Journey to Balance
When someone you know is hurting, be compassionate, you can even add humor and style and make them smile.
Peace & Blessings,
Our Journey to Balance
Know that you are truly a good person; you are, really, and knowing this fact will help you stay authentically open to others.
Copyright © 2014 Maritza Alvarez
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Wanting…
The more you chase,
the further it seems to run.
But, there is a secret, a word,
a state of being,
that dissolves this illusion, and unlocks
the hidden code,
in the paradox of wanting.
This word will trick the universe
into thinking you’ve already received
what you most want.
This word is - Gratitude.
Gratitude does not beg, it does not grasp,
it simply is.
It tells the universe, I have already received, and,
in doing so, it bends reality
in your favor,
drawing more and more
into your hands.
For the one who is grateful lives closest
to the source, aligned
with the great rhythm of existence.
Without it, you are but a beggar
at the gates of abundance,
blind to the riches already within you.
There are but two choices,
free will, you see.
Spend your days yearning, or
awaken to the truth,
that all you seek is already yours
if only you would see it.
Poem: “Wanting”
Reflections on Gratitude, Our Journey to Balance