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23

Mar

Solitude: a strength

At 5:15 Edie called to tell the girls her husband came home. She never got through to anyone though. Gaby didn’t pick up because she was watching the girls take their orders. Lynette was out with Stella laughing and sharing stories and enjoying it. Bree was outside showing her future son-in-law color samples for the house and smiling politely when they disagreed. And Susan didn’t answer because she was enjoying a cup of tea and what it was like to be alone. - Desperate Housewives

I was an only child for five years: and I thought that being alone that long was enough for the rest of my life. Yet, I found myself somewhat alienated through school. I am a year apart from everyone in age, so I was interested in clothes, makeup and boys later than everyone else. I sort of stumbled through high school wondering where my interests lied in terms of my friends. But for most of my life, I was never really alone. I was surrounded by classmates, teachers, neighbors, caretakers… and although I was frustrated by being nannied, I appreciated the constant companion.

So when I moved here the loneliness was unbearable. I did not know how to be alone… which in college is sometimes quite inevitable. I would watch Netflix till I fell asleep and call a dozen friends trying to formulate plans.

It was only when I could truly be alone with myself that I completely appreciated solitude.