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Marginalized people are not revolution objects

So, here’s a thing I’ve seen happen:
People get really into social justice theory
and then they read a lot from people who all agree with each other
and then they assume that everyone in that group agrees
and then, when they encounter someone in that group who doesn’t think that thing, they don’t know how to deal with them
or they’re rude and condescending
For instance:
Someone who reads a lot of disability theory is excited about the idea of acceptance
And, in particular, the reasons that mobility equipment is liberating and wonderful
And they encounter someone who is enduring considerable pain rather than use a wheelchair
And then they talk at them about how they just need to accept themself already, without listening to where they’re actually coming from
That is not respectful. It can sometimes be ok to express an opinion or offer advice (emphasis on offer; people can say no to hearing your advice), but it’s not ok to try and run someone else’s life, or to take control of their self image, or related stuff
Respecting someone has to start with respecting them as people who think for themselves, not trying to make them do what you think self-respecting people do
keep in mind that:
No matter how much you’ve read, you’ve never been the person you’re talking to
That goes double if you’re not a member of their group, but it applies even if you are
Having read a lot of social justice theory, or even being part of that group and having found that it described your experience, does *not* mean that you know better than someone else how they should be living their life
Don’t try to take people over, and don’t talk down to them
The last thing marginalized people need is yet another person trying to run over them for their own good. They get that enough already
People are complicated, and you are never the expert on someone else’s life. Reading social justice theory, and even being really insightful about what’s wrong with our culture, does not make you an expert on someone else’s life. Their life is for them to live and make decisions about. Marginalized people are not revolution objects.