I’ve entered into the adult dating world with a belief that there is “the one” and it is my task to find him. As I matured, my beliefs shifted a little bit. Instead of me having to actively seek this person, the universe would influence our lives in such a way that we would be gently guided together and live happily ever after.

Recently, my understanding has completely expanded in a way that was a huge wake up for me. Some of you may have already had this awareness, but for me it was a game changer.

I believe this is a universal truth: THERE IS NO “THE ONE” - there are an infinite number of possible partners who are suited to you.

Here how it works: the universe is constantly reorganizing based on the choices that you make with your free will. As you evolve, change and make choices - a new person is matched with based on where you current find yourself. As you make different choices, evolve and grow a new person for whom you would be aligned starts to resonate with you as a possibility.

Now it all seems so simple and clear. It really takes the pressure off of losing “the one”. You can never lose the one, because you wouldn’t lose something that was truly intended for you - but also because everything would just reorganize for a different and better fit.

So if you meet potential partner and you wonder if this person is “the one” the real answer is that it is currently undecided. You both have the ability to impact the outcome and you both have to trust that the highest good will occur. If it turns out not to be a match, trust there is someone (or someones!) even more perfect for you out there.

Thanks to my friend, Leah, who sparked this insight and to all my friends seen and unseen who are helping piece everything together!