Sometimes your gods don’t ever talk to you. Don’t let anybody tell you that that’s not normal, or that they’re better devotees or more religious or any of that horseshit. Your friends aren’t “more open” to the gods or anything like that. Your gods are not pissed at you. Silence from the gods is not an indicator of “something wrong” and if anyone tells you otherwise, they can fuck themselves with a pinecone.
OMFG, let me tell y’all a story about this shit. When I was a wee bby pagan, just starting to realize ‘oh, crap, Loki is a thing in my life,” I shared my beliefs with a friend at the time. A person I thought was my BFF. She had always had pagan/witchy leanings and she seemed supportive, so I thought I was safe with her.
As time passed, though, she began to get more and more involved with ‘faeries, ghosts, and Celtic gods‘ and would tell me all about their adventures in the astral and how easy it was to see/talk to them. And if I would just open my mind, or focus harder on empty air, or take some other pieces of advice, I could do it, too.
She would tell me all these stories about how great her spirit entities were and when I asked her to cool down because it was making me self-conscious and anxious about my own spiritual relationships, she launched into ‘tutoring to help me get better.’ Which only made things worse, because I am not wired like that, but she made me feel guilty/like a bad devotee for not being able to do the things she did. And the fun times got even funner when she took it upon herself to communicate for me and ‘channel’ Loki when ‘he needed to tell me something, especially if he was upset.‘
I don’t know how much of this was conscious on her part and how much of it was unbridled excitement to share something without really thinking of how it might impact me combined with a desire to make herself seem helpful and ‘legit,’ but it has eternally skewed my sense of what’s ‘good enough’ in regards to spiritual communication. Every time I think I’m on solid ground, some other insecurity this planted rears up and catches me by surprise. It’s, honestly, part of the reason I doubt what communication I do get so much.
TLDR; everyone relates to the gods in different ways. Don’t ever let someone tell you that they’re more open or in-tune or whatever. Don’t let someone screw you up like that. It’s not worth it, and the effects of buying into that bullshit last way longer than you’d expect them to.