I'm certainly not one of those people, but I'm sure there are. There are some people that don't consider their sexuality a large part of their identity.

I'd say fewer and further between, if only because they're battered by homo- and bi-phobia by culture all the time whether they're out or not, but I would bet there are people who really don't consider it super important.

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

It's perfectly reasonable to have feelings for someone else while still in a relationship. If you were concerned about that, don't be. There's nothing wrong with it any more than there would be if the other person you were into was a man.

What you do with that, though, is up to you. Do you want to stay with this man, rather than try to pursue this woman? Would your current relationship benefit from communication on this matter? Is there a chance that this woman could reciprocate your affections?

I'm the kind of person who'd want to lay out all possible scenarios and decide which is the most beneficial, but I think regardless you need to do some self-examination and decide what's best for you.

I'm sorry to say, anon, that sometimes you have to hide for a while. I've been hiding too, my family wouldn't accept me.

But you won't have to hide forever. You can seek out LGBT groups that have a thriving bi community, some friends that accept you for who you are, and you can move on from the stage of life your in into the next one and find new people to accept you. (High school into college, college into the rest of life, etc.)

Until then, seek out communities, either online or in person, maybe a school group or something, that will accept you. Even a few people to talk about this stuff with will help.

I appreciate the update, and I'm glad things have started to get better at least.

Man, screw that guy. He's not worth your time.

Trying to keep it just to yourself is horrible. You don't have to come out to the public if you feel it to be unsafe (or you just don't want to) but you should tell at least a person or two. Bring it up again with the person who reacted well, perhaps. It sucks to keep it inside and alone.

You're not alone. I'm here if you need me.

Do you trust your friends not to tell other people? If that's the case, tell them while you are alone with them, and have them promise not to tell people. If they care about you, and are trustworthy, they won't say anything.

If you don't trust them and are afraid, you don't have to tell them. But if you think it's worth the risk, definitely do it. Being alone in this stuff sucks.

If you are bisexual and you want to identify as bisexual, and it's not dangerous for you to identify as such, then fuck those people. Educate them if you can; talk about bisexual celebrities, the bi community, whatever. But if you can't, then fuck them! You are comfortably bisexual, and you shouldn't be ashamed of it.

I know it's not always easy to deal with, though, so if you really want to keep it to yourself, that's fair. However, don't be afraid to say what you are. You deserve better, anon.

Test the waters by approaching the subject of gay rights, perhaps. If something comes up in the news, ask them how they feel about it. Religion does not necessarily equal bigotry, though I don't know your parents.

If it's not safe to come out, don't come out. I know it's painful and terrible but you won't be under your parents' roof forever, and you do have people that love you and will stand by you.

My inbox is open, even if you just need to vent.