hey can you better describe object permanence and the inability to grasp the concept of time as is applies to BPD? I don't really understand what people mean when they say that

object permanence is basically the idea that an object is there when you’re not looking at it. So if you’re playing with a young child (or, often, a pet) and hide something (say, a ball) behind your back, they cant usually tell where its gone. They see it in your hand, they see your hand go behind your back - but when your hand returns without the ball, they dont make the leap of “the ball is behind their back”. instead they wonder where the ball can be? since they cant see it. thats because they lack object permanence.

BPD sufferers often struggle with this, but instead of “the physical image of a ball”, its “the emotional connection with a person”. Its complicated and it ties in with dependency and fear of abandonment, but basically borderlines often struggle to believe that the emotional connection they have with a person is real when its not being actively reinforced.

So, anxiety when someone leaves, or when someone isnt reassuring you how they feel - or asking a person to reiterate their feelings every day, or needing constant attention and reassuring, beign “clingy”, etc, are likely related to this - because when theyre not being constantly reminded and told, bpd people struggle to hold onto or conceptualise other peoples feelings for them.

The time thing, Im less sure about. 

From what I understand, borderlines often dont grasp time very well. This might be tioed in with dissocation? I know for me it is, sometimes I dissociate and Im not aware of time passing, or time seems to be stretched out thing. Its very hard to describe.

On a small scale I think BPD , like a lot of other NDs, is linked with not being aware of time passing, of sometimes feeling like time isnt passing when it is, or in some cases, of feeling “outside” the idea of time at all. This happens to me a lot and Im not sure why - if any followers can explain, please jump in with theories!

On a large scale some research has sugggested that borderlines dont view time as linear, through their lives - rather they just view time as a big clump of life events. This can be very confusing and lead to know knowing what “order” things happened in, or when things happened etc. 

SOrry if that wasnt very clear!