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Okay but after seeing this I started doing it too and it’s amazing how many men I’ve run into bc they expected me to move

Gotta try it

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clevermanka

I work (and walk) on a college campus. I’ve lost count of how many men I’ve smacked shoulders with.

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emmagrant01

Recently, I was standing outside my son’s classroom waiting to talk to his teacher. I stood on one side of the hallway, not even close to the center. At some point, a man came walking along. I was standing right in his path, but the hallway was empty, so I logically expected him to swerve around me. Instead he kept walking right toward me, got to me, and stopped, as if waiting for me to get out of his way. I didn’t; I just smiled politely at him. He finally walked around me, clearly annoyed that I hadn’t leapt out of his manly path.

Now I’m wishing I’d leapt aside, taken off my jacket and laid it on the floor before him, then bowed deeply and said, “My Liege!”

I also work at a college campus. I smack shoulders sometimes, but I find that if I stare straight ahead and follow the advice below, people get the heck out of the way.

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songbirde108

Honestly this post changed how I carry myself when walking alone in public, or in a situation where I’m the one leading. People definitely move for the murder gaze.

Confirmed. I once had to rush back inside a convention hall as the con was closing in order to a retrieve a sick friend’s medication, and I didn’t understand why people in the crowd were jumping out of my way (literally—one guy vaulted a table) until I realized I was dressed as the Winter Soldier and doing the Murder Walk because that’s just how I walk in those boots. I got the meds, got out, and made a mental note.

I repeated the experiment later, wearing the boots but otherwise my usual clothing and mimicking the expression I thought I’d had at that moment. People parted like I was Charlton Heston.

I now wear that style of boots whenever possible. I recently had a man do a double-take as I walked by and ask me, politely, where I had served because I “looked like a soldier.” I’m not current or former military. I was wearing a flowy purple peasant top and looked as un-soldierlike as possible.

Moral of the story: wear comfortable shoes, square your shoulders, and walk like you’ve been sent to murder Captain America.

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Here's why violent uprisings tend to fail, but nonviolence works.

just gonna leave this here. here’s an entire book on the subject if you’re interested!

I got nothing but sympathy for the people who are driven to violent sentiment by unfair regimes, but I am sick and tired of people making fiery claims about the uselessness of nonviolence/necessity of violence for social change. Violence generally does not help the cause.

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all I feel like saying on baltimore:

- this shit is fucking sad, I am so fucking tired of hearing about a black person getting killed by police like EVERY OTHER DAY this year

- I am sad and frustrated that the rioters are overshadowing the peaceful protests in the media. this is to be expected. it happens every time.

- people who say nonviolent protest is ineffective can go fuck themselves. it makes me so angry. see: both violent action and nonviolent protest change public opinion. and public opinion is often the biggest and most effective instigator of large-scale social change. you can riot every week for a whole year and all it will do is increase racial tensions in the US—just look at 2015. sure, it’ll increase media coverage. sure, it’ll get out some anger. but all it does is convince white people their racism is justified. I’m not saying this is right, but I am saying it’s true.

you know what nonviolence does? there’s a reason that the big nonviolent protests and leaders are the ones that get the most screen time in history classes, the most unadulterated respect. it’s because when you take two parties, and one is violent and one is peaceful, it’s fucking patently obvious who is in the wrong. nonviolence swings public opinion drastically in your favor. violence does the exact opposite. and when the whole population of a country is on your side, just watch and see how fast the policies change. look at gay marriage. why do you think it’s passed so fast in so many states recently? because the general public has started to see gay people as friendly and nonthreatening and equally human, is why.

so when people are all like “see nonviolence is ineffective and violence is necessary for social change” I’m like go fuck yourself. stop fucking devaluing nonviolence.

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Rebecca Solnit: Please, radical leftists, spare us the bitterness and negativity; we need hope and incremental victories and you provide neither

This is brilliant. Two and a half years old and still relevant, maybe even more relevant than ever.

Some key points:

  • “There are bad things and they are bad. There are good things and they are good, even though the bad things are bad.”
  • “This kind of response often has an air of punishing or condemning those who are less radical, and it is exactly the opposite of movement- or alliance-building.”
  • “Fury is not a tactic or a strategy, though it might sometimes provide the necessary energy for getting things done.”
  • “The perfect is the enemy of the good.”
  • “We talk about prefigurative politics, the idea that you can embody your goal. This is often discussed as doing your political organising through direct-democratic means, but not as being heroic in your spirit or generous in your gestures.”
  • “Or as a Nevada activist friend put it: ‘Oh my God, go be sanctimonious in California and don't vote or whatever, but those bitching radicals are basically suppressing the vote in states where it matters.’”
  • “People who told me back in 2000 that there was no difference between Bush and Gore never got back to me afterward.”
  • “You don't have to participate in this system, but you do have to describe it and its complexities and contradictions accurately, and you do have to understand that when you choose not to participate, it better be for reasons more interesting than the cultivation of your own moral superiority, which is so often also the cultivation of recreational bitterness.”
  • “Bitterness poisons you and it poisons the people you feed it to, and with it you drive away a lot of people who don't like poison. You don't have to punish those who do choose to participate. Actually, you don't have to punish anyone, period.”
  • “We face not only their specific policies, but a kind of cultural decay that comes from not valuing truth, not trying to understand the complexities and nuances of our situation, and not making empathy a force with which to act.”
  • “Being different means celebrating what you have in common with potential allies, not punishing them for often-minor differences. It means developing a more complex understanding of the matters under consideration than the cartoonish black and white that both left and the right tend to fall back on.”
  • “‘What is not good are ideals and rhetorics that don't have the possibility of changing the condition that you analyse. Otherwise, you're engaging in a form of rhetorical narcissism and ideological self-preoccupation that has no consequence on the material conditions of actually existing poor people.’”
  • “Despair is also a form of dismissiveness, a way of saying that you already know what will happen and nothing can be done, or that the differences don't matter, or that nothing but the impossibly perfect is acceptable. If you're privileged you can then go home and watch bad TV or reinforce your grumpiness with equally grumpy friends.”
  • “The desperate are often much more hopeful than that – the Coalition of Immokalee Workers, that amazingly effective immigrant farmworkers' rights group, is hopeful because quitting for them would mean surrendering to modern-day slavery, dire poverty, hunger, or death, not cable-TV reruns. They're hopeful and they're powerful, and they went up against Taco Bell, McDonald's, Safeway, Whole Foods and Trader Joe's, and they won.”
  • “Every minute of every hour of every day you are making the world, just as you are making yourself, and you might as well do it with generosity and kindness and style.”
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Hey John, I've spent most of my young life devout and most of my college life firmly atheist, and now I'm in a place that seems like it maybe resembles yours (albeit Hindu) in that my official stance is still pretty much "god/s probably not literally real", but I'm less obstinate about walling out the habits, instincts and raptures of religiosity. (Including bona fide prayer now and again, aforementioned god/s help me). Any thoughts on walking through this weird place?

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I feel like this question is “can I still practice my faith even if I don’t really buy it?” and I think the answer is “of course!” You don’t have to apologize to yourself or anybody else if you like to pray, or attend services, or observe feasts/holidays/saints’ days/etc. There is no requirement that you believe. Do you enjoy praying? Does it connect you to something — maybe something within, maybe something beyond, maybe to a community whether that’s in real space or a broader community out there in the world? Then pray! Do you have a nagging feeling that your prayers ascend into an empty sky? Me too! Who cares! I pray every night and at many points throughout the day. There’s probably no God. It doesn’t matter. It feels good to me to engage in acts of religious devotion, to talk to the G/gods I’ve carried in my heart. To give thanks. To confess to some Being, whether real or imagined but in private, my shortcomings, and to ask for strength. I connect to something essential in myself when I pray. Life’s long and the paths winds through all sorts of places. I think the only imperative is “be present to the places you’re passing through.” There are plenty of reasons to be observant and it’s your life — no-one can tell how you’re supposed to feel when you pray. That’s between you and the object of your prayers, or between you an an incomprehensible void, depending.

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This is a really good answer. I’m in a similar place (also Hindu! hey *waves*) and honestly I kinda like it. I still highly doubt a god exists in any literal sense, but I do think the universe is a huge, mysterious place, and it’s entirely possible something exists that’s so far beyond our current comprehension that it seems godlike. I enjoy the feeling of spirituality, the thought that something ties us all together, that there is a ~presence or consciousness or simply scientific connectedness that’s been around for a long time and just holds together the fabric of the universe. Or something. I appreciate what religion does for people and I enjoy coming together to celebrate or acknowledge something deeper than homework or taxes. I like looking at art and stories that have been around for thousands of years and thinking of the people who made them. I don’t mind prayer; I like being in a temple and feeling the history and atmosphere of sacredness.

I still don’t think anybody’s out there specifically listening to our prayers, but I don’t think you need to believe in a god, in the traditional sense, to appreciate religion! It’s pretty cool.

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Chad Gadya (cover, Shirana/Chava Alberstein version)

Okay this is not a real cover, it’s just me messing around, but I just spent an inordinate amount of time literally listening to this over and over again and painstakingly transcribing it, because I couldn’t find the lyrics anywhere. And I finally did it. And probably lots of the words are wrong and I apologize to like, every Jewish person for butchering this, I am so sorry. But I sort of got it!

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Some of the posts I’ve seen lately (particularly those about LGBTQ youth suicides), as well as the general way I’ve seen people on tumblr tending to talk about suicide, have seriously concerned me as potential causes of suicide contagion. 

Suicide contagion (or “copycat suicide”) refers to the phenomenon of a spike in suicides (or “suicide cluster”) that emulate an original “model” suicide, the details of which have been highly publicized without taking protective measures. 

In order to prevent this, most media outlets have guidelines to encourage the responsible coverage of suicide (in extreme cases, the mention of suicide is completely banned). Unfortunately, people posting on social media sites and blogs are not subject to the same guidelines and may not be aware of the potentially devastating impact that their actions could have. To help people discuss suicide in a responsible way, I’ve compiled a list of some of the factors that can cause suicide contagion.

Factors that can contribute to suicide contagion effect:

-glamorizing of the suicide or the deceased; implying that their death was purposeful, noble, or heroic in any way; (specific to LGBTQ people) turning the deceased into a martyr for the cause

-sharing details of the method of death (especially graphic or explicit details or photos)

-sharing photos of the death, funeral, or memorials

-quoting or sharing excerpts from or complete suicide notes

-implying that one specific event triggered a suicide; ignore the multitude of factors that contribute to suicide

-using dramatic, sensationalist or graphic language and images; repeated discussion or coverage of a suicide

-presenting suicide as a viable, valid, or liberating option 

-referring to a suicide as successful/failed rather than using more neutral language such as completed/attempted

-turning the deceased’s social media pages into memorials especially without careful moderation to delete potentially dangerous posts

-failing to share suicide prevention resources in posts/articles about suicide

This is not to say that the victims of suicide should not be mourned or remembered, but that we must do so in a conscientious way. The people who are most vulnerable to suicide contagion are those who occupy the same or similar demographic categories as the deceased. When we talk about the suicides of LGBT youth carelessly we are putting the most vulnerable members of our community at risk. Please keep these guidelines in mind when you are deciding what to post and reblog!

And finally, if you are considering suicide or think someone you know may be PLEASE seek help. Stay safe and look out for each other and for yourselves. 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US): 1 (800) 273-8255

The Trevor Project Lifeline (Specifically for LGBTQ Youth): 866-488-7386

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Kurdish Warrior Women Fearlessly fighting the evils of ISIS at every turn. Made especially fierce by the knowledge of what ISIS will do to them if they are captured. And made an especially effective due to the fact that ISIS fighters believe that if killed by a woman they will be chastised in the afterlife.

I’m really mad that this doesn’t have more notes. Middle Eastern feminists don’t joke around.

That last gif is fucking hard shit.

There is nothing more dangerous than a woman whose family is threatened.

I’d ask for their names but given the circumstances, best not. Instead, I’ll wish them strength, courage and good cover.

this is some shit. good luck.

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playing with some religious imagery for my current obsession. i’d like to go back and do a good version of this sketch, but i’ll probs never get to it, so this one is going up instead

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Anonymous asked:

If you find the sort of fic you're looking for, please post a rec! Now that you've mentioned it, that is a pattern, and I'd love to try out some fic that breaks that mold.

oh man, sorry I missed this ask! now that you mention it, a reclist sounds like a great idea. I’m gonna have to keep that in the back of my head as I read fic :D

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