As every individual is different of course everyone has their own experience with sex, bleeding is something that a lot of women go through and it can last up to X amount of days and vary from person to person in terms of the heaviness of it, just relax if he didn't cum inside you and you did use a Condon I'm sure all is fine ! I was the same when I first had sex I'd turn to the mirror and hold my stomach as if I had out on weight from being pregnant but don't worry you aren't pregnant !!!

There are a lot of things that need to be considered whilst trying to reach that point in your orgasm. Firstly make sure you are as relaxed as possible, for instance lying in bed listening to music etc just to relax yourself, close the door and make sure you are only focussed on what is going on in your room and dont worry about the outside world. Rule number 2, get aroused. Try watching porn or visuallising stuff in your head about your own fantasies or something really sexual. 

Once you’re in that mood hopefully you’ll be wet enough that you can actually start to touch yourself. Yes most girls either get off by rubbing their clit or fingering however try not to stick to a specific area, rub along the vag, tease yourself if anything, and when you want to explore try touching your clit, a lot of the time girls tend to go straight to the clit without any warm up and expect to reach their climax but this all comes with patience, and getting to know yourself and what things you like. 

Other than that the best advice that we can give you is don’t expect anything, just go with the flow, be calm, relaxed and eventually it will happen for you, just try get into the habit of the things we’ve mentioned above. Let us know how you go! xxx