I really thought I was past posting things like this, past all the drama, and had learnt to ignore people clutching at straws and scraping the barrel to make their point, and blowing things out of proportion without really, deeply thinking about what really happened, about human response and raw emotion, all because itās not in favour of their ship.
Iām not going to go completely into what I read earlier that made me angry (other than to say some people still think Fitz is nothing but an arsehole and Jemma is nothing but an angel) but Iām pretty sure youāll understand when youāve read the below, and maybe youāve even read it yourself. I tried to reply, but when I reblogged nothing came up, and itās not showing on my page. The original post is still up, so maybe thereās a function I donāt know about that enables you to allow people to reblog but not with comment. Anyway, my reply was so long that I copied it in case something went wrong, as itās happened to me before.
Iād like to just take a moment to point out that I donāt think Fitz is an innocent little bunny (but heās not a self-entitled twat, either, no matter what some people would like to believe), and Jemma is a horrible, mean lady (because sheās not. Sheās not innocent, either, but Iāve certainly never hated her at any point during the last season), just in case some people get to the end of my rant and still arenāt sure. This isnāt a ādefending Fitzā reply, and it isnāt meant to insult people who have different ships, because I donāt care who people ship, itās none of my business. But when a character gets crapped on just to try and make their ship look better, then it pisses me off, especially when theyāre made out to be a complete bad guy and the other character is made out to be completely innocent, and neither of those things is true.
Sorry this is long. Itās late here, Iām tired, and I canāt remember how to hide things behind cuts. Forgive me. Also, if anyone replies with opinions of their own, whether to agree or disagree, and I donāt reply back, Iām not ignoring you or not replying because I have nothing to say - I recently came back to tumblr after a long break, because I hated the drama, the insults, the sniping, the crapping all over other peopleās ships just because theirs isnāt happening on-screen, and Iām being reminded, not just by the post I just read, but by others, across multiple fandoms, just why I left, so Iām going to take another break away from here. I probably will reply one day (unless so much time passes that it would then just be awkward š). But, no matter how much I wanted to, I just couldnāt let this slide. Iām ridiculously stubborn at times.
Anyway, here it is, almost exactly as I wrote it (I added a little extra):
ā*bangs head against wall*
Iām not saying he was completely innocent, and no, Iām not blind to how they both behaved. Yes, both. But it was never about her not feeling the same, the whole season wasnāt Fitz throwing a tantrum over that, because he wasnāt. He was dealing with brain trauma (which, yes, will affect a personās behaviour and how they react to things - thatās a medical fact, so yes, at times he will be selfish and get angry easily), and had no idea why Jemma had left. Because she didnāt tell him. He had nothing else to go on. They didnāt talk to each other, and the whole thing was miscommunication after miscommunication, because they didnāt know how to talk about their feelings. If someone left me without any explanation, Iād be pissed and hurt, too, even if they had gone through a traumatic event with me, because thatās a human reaction. When youāre that close to someone, and you think youāll deal with it together, and then they just leaveā¦ Can anyone honestly say they wouldnāt feel the same way? That it wouldnāt hurt them even a little bit? Probably not. And I know Iāve lashed out without thinking when Iāve been hurt, and not because Iām just 'selfish and immatureā, because believe me, Iām a fully grown, capable adult, but I still have insecurities and gut reactions. People always will.
It really annoys me when people say it was all about Fitz being pissed because she didnāt love him, because that wasnāt at all what it was about. He might have thought that was why she left, but that doesnāt mean he was angry that she didnāt love him, that thatās what the whole season was about for them. He never said that. He did say that he thought sheād left because heād changed, and from his position, it makes sense that he would think that, that he wasnāt good enough for her anymore, either as a friend or a colleague, that he was 'damagedā.
When he said to Hunter that he loved a girl who didnāt love him back, he wasnāt bitching about her. It was his awkward way of making conversation to try and fit in, and maybe it wasnāt the best idea, Iām not defending it, but it doesnāt make him a monster. At that moment, that was true to him, but he didnāt then slag her off, and then when Hunter said "Her lossā, Fitz didnāt nod and say āYes, I agree! Poor me!ā (Saying nothing doesnāt mean he agreed, either). Not all, but many of us have had moments where weāve felt sorry for ourselves when someone doesnāt feel the same way about us as we do about them, and we vocalise it to friends. It doesnāt mean we think weāre entitled to them, that they should love us, and how dare they not.
And she does love him. Thatās a fact, one that has been confirmed not only by Elizabeth, but by other members of the cast and crew. They were going to go on a date. She wasnāt guilt-tripped into changing her mind, because there was nothing to change her mind about. She spent all that time unsure of what she really wanted, and then finally realised that she wanted him. She wasnāt forced into it. Sheās a strong, smart woman who is capable of saying no if she doesnāt want something, no matter who sheās saying ānoā to, and implying anything else does her a great disservice.
I donāt care who people ship. Skimmons isnāt my thing, but I wouldnāt go into that tag and explain all the reasons why I thought they wouldnāt work, and try and find anything I could to make it look like one of them was the bad guy. Iāve had loads of ships that other people havenāt liked, and would never have happened, but I didnāt try and drag down the others. I could list all the things that Skyeās done that really pissed me off and made me angry, but Iām not going to.
Remember, we saw a lot of Simmons that Fitz didnāt, were privy to, as viewers, important information that he had no idea about. My friendās younger sister had brain damage (she was starved of oxygen at birth), and while a lot of the time she was perfectly pleasant, sometimes she could be selfish, immature, impatient, short-tempered and easily frustrated, but that was just part of how her brain was rewired after the trauma it went through - she wasnāt behaving that way on purpose. That doesnāt mean she didnāt upset people, but they knew the real reason for it. Fitz is lucky in that heās mostly recovered, but it still takes time, and it might never completely go. And Iām pretty sure he knows that heās been out of line at times and regrets it, just as Jemma knows that she could have spoken up sooner, but didnāt, because she was confused and scared. And he didnāt speak up, either, and so on and on it went. I just hope, when Jemmaās back and safe, that they continue to talk instead of just guessing what the other is thinking, because that can lead to bad, bad things, no matter how much of an unspoken link they might have.
They both went about things the wrong way. Neither one is innocent, and we saw way more of Jemmaās vulnerability and emotions than Fitz did. She didnāt talk and didnāt seek him out to do so (apart from that failed attempt when he told her he was leaving the lab to work with Mack), and he didnāt stick around her long enough to make her or start the conversation himself because of his own stubbornness, pride, and fear."
