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it has been phenomenally good for my self-image and general everyday happiness to accept that the literal only criterion for being a woman is to be an adult human female
there is no debate over what I am or aren’t, no criteria I have to work to fulfil or to avoid fulfilling, nothing I have to do or not do; I simply already am, I can’t lose that, testosterone and a double mastectomy hasn’t taken it away from me
everything I do is something a woman does, I am “living as a woman” whatever I do - and I can just focus on being as opposed to this endless attempted becoming
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pro-female
pro-female conversations
pro-female healthcare
pro-female progress
pro-female rights
pro-female expression
pro-female intuition
pro-female spaces
pro-female systems
pro-femalekind
Using the term “female” = labeling people by their genitals.
Which is what misogynists do.
It’s taking into consideration our sexed reality, not diminishing us to our sexed reality?
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Anonymous asked:
What can people who do transition (and don't intend to detransition) can do to support detransitioners?
Hey anon,
You’re really sweet; thank you for this thoughtful message.
I’m gonna assume you’re ftm and go from there.
I’d say the biggest thing is to understand–as I do–that we’re not enemies; we’re actually not fundamentally different from each other. We’re the same group of people. It’s not the case that detransitioners just aren’t and were never really trans people. We were. It’s not the case that you can pick out certain characteristics of a person and use them to predict who will stay transitioned; you can’t.
We have the same “stuff,” we’re just handling it differently at this moment. I used to be where you are, and under the right set of pressures I could go back. (I hope that never happens, because it would take something pretty heinous at this point to push me there, but I say this in the recognition that we’re not really different.) Likewise, you could find yourself where I am in the future. I think that knowledge underlies the real uneasiness that is usually present between our “two” groups.
Because while we’re not enemies, it can be really awkward to interact with each other. We have a lot of the same “stuff,” so we can trip each other’s wires very easily. I get that. I’m willing to own my part of that awkwardness and welcome ftms to own theirs. I look at mine pretty carefully and keep current with it as best I can. For me, the most volatile part is when I get triggered by interacting with old ways of thinking/self-concept that I have had to work very hard to get out of. I imagine for ftms it is probably something like, feeling threatened that a lot of what detransitioners talk about specifically names the pressures that these coping mechanisms are built to contain–and that’s no joke, people don’t make such sophisticated containers unless we have stuff that really requires it. My “stuff” was downright nuclear and it needed a serious containment protocol–so I get it. It’s actually generally not a good idea to discard any coping mechanism if you don’t have something adequate to replace it with. I learned that in trauma recovery and in recovery recovery; it’s quite applicable here, too.
This blog isn’t about trying to get ftms to detransition. That’s not my goal. I only offer my detransitioning ESH (experience, strength, and hope–12 step term) to women who ask for it because they have decided they want to do this. To ftms, I say–cope however you need to cope with this fucked up world, and know that I will be in your corner pulling for you to survive–while at the same time trying to help build a world with better options for us all. Because I do think it’s untenable that ftm transition is being medicalized in wholly irresponsible and dangerous ways–that scares me, and I care about that a lot. It’s not okay that we have been treated as “not even lab rats” and endangered by those who claim to be helping.
It might be offensive to you, but in my world these are terms of respect and recognition: I understand you as part of a tradition of passing women and I will always see you as my sister. Whatever images those words (women, sister) may evoke in dominant culture, in my meaning they have plenty of room for you, exactly the way you are right now, however that looks. I’m not talking about “gender” when I use those words; I’m talking about what you and I have in common. Neither of us were the daughter that our parents wanted and expected us to be. We weren’t what the world had in mind when it put those words and roles on us. But here we are. Any “incongruity” isn’t real. We’re real.
If ftms and detransitioners could bridge across that feeling of mutual threat and be real with each other–unguarded, disarmed, and radically honest–I wonder what we’d be capable of.
I’m not sure I answered your question, but I hope I haven’t alienated you too much and I hope you get that I care about you, too.
You were brave and generous to ask this and I appreciate it a lot.
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Transgender Woman Arrested for Voyeurism at Ammon Target
43-year-old Sean Patrick Smith, who also goes by Shauna Patricia Smith, was booked into the Bonneville County Jail on one felony count of voyeurism.
Bonneville County Sgt. Bryan Lovell says deputies were called to a disturbance at Target on 25th East just after 5 p.m. Monday.
A woman told them a man, dressed in women’s clothing, had entered a fitting room in the women’s clothing section of the store. Deputies say the suspect was seen taking photos of a lady in a stall next to him while she was changing.
“The woman was begging for help as she chased the man out the door,” a witness inside the store, who asked not to be named, tells EastIdahoNews.com. “She kept saying she wanted those pictures deleted.”
The suspect, later identified as Smith, left the store and Lovell says detectives located him Tuesday afternoon.
Lovell says detectives are investigating to see if there are other victims.
Smith is expected in court Wednesday.
This cannot possibly have happened. Genderists said so.
scaredradfem
This is why women need sex-segregated changing rooms and bathrooms
elephant-flower
Their common go-to is “THIS IS NOT A REAL TRANSGENDER!!!”
radmoon
Exactly and there is no denying he identifies as a transwoman (i mean he has an alternate name and a “dead” name)…like keep playing this game where you want to disown the predators but if you are going to say that female is a feeling then you (1) can’t hide from the fact that there are people you are saying are crossdressers but ~identify as women/transwomen and (2) have violence within the community that can’t be covered up by pretending that these crossdresser types aren’t “real trans”
I did check the sex offender registry in the state and nothing came up for him but I have a feeling he has done this before and just hasn’t gotten caught.
UPDATE: saw this on another post, thought I’d add it here too. He admits he’s done it before.
radmoon
wow. i HATE hate hate being right about this sort of stuff. thank you for the addition though, i really appreciate it
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i am constantly upset that it is so, so easy to get labelled a TERF and then once you’re a TERF you’re violent and evil, deserving of death and rape threats
i am not violent. i do not want any person to suffer because of their sexuality or gender presentation - as a lesbian feminist this is fucking vital to me!!
gender is oppressive nonsense and brain sex is a myth that doesn’t account for neuroplasticity and social conditioning, but it’s not going away as a social force any time soon! i have no hatred or bad feelings for anyone who is so victimised by the said oppressive social force of gender who feels that the only way they can be safe in their sexuality and self expression is to transition. i think, contrary to popular belief, a lot of people find it easier to swallow a ‘born in the wrong body’ narrative than accept that assigned genders are bullshit, and people of whatever sex can love whoever, do whatever and dress however they please. that is not the fault of people who seek to transition for their safety - especially if passing is a possibility, i think transitioning can be safer/less confrontational than openly existing as a GNC person!!
what does bother me is treating transition like an innate part of human existence, rather than a reaction to a heteronormative, patriarchal society that violently punishes deviation from the norm!!
eg insisting that prostate care is inherently a women’s health issue that should have equal priority from women’s health organisations alongside pap smears, contraception, abortion etc
eg redefining womanhood; taking away lesbian/gay people’s ability to describe their own sexuality; claiming that lesbianism is, and always has been, attraction to ‘feminine identified people’, not attraction to certain bodies; cotton ceiling bullshit that boils down to ‘not fucking me makes you indistinguishable from people who want to do me serious bodily harm/kill me’
i don’t know where i’m going with this, please add/comment/disagree i’m interested in others’ thoughts!!
probably-hates-you-already
I see Terfs labeled as violent, but even though I follow nearly 200 of them, I have yet to see anyone post anything condoning violence against trans people. Not once. What I HAVE seen in the ‘terf’ tag is a constant flow of posts wishing death on Terfs. As an excuse, they say that it’s not bad to be violent toward someone who is violent first.. but we’re not..?? When faced with the fact that we are in fact not violent, they claim that our beliefs are inherently violent because they ‘contribute to the ideology of people who do commit actual violence’. But our ideology literally says that trans people are victims of an oppressive system, by default. So, anyone who attacks Trans people just for being trans obviously DO NOT align themselves with our ideas. Then some have said that our words are violent because they deny the existence of gendered brains, and thus deny the identity of emotionally fragile trans people - we are violent because our words contribute to suicide in the trans community. That’s the ultimate silencing tool, making us feel as though speaking the truth will cause someones death at their own hand. But we can’t fall for that. In reality the lie they spread is way more harmful than the truth will ever be.
We have to become immune to the hate. We have to shrug it off for what it is: a scare tactic.
feministmemez-deactivated201607
this is what cults do. let people live!
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Literally anyone who wants to can call me a terf, I’ll still drive anyone who needs to to the abortion clinic. I’m not sure how saying “trans women don’t need abortions” is offensive. The sky is blue. Water is wet. Pregnancy happens in wombs.
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Under male scrutiny, women will avert their eyes or cast them downward; the female gaze is trained to abandon its claim to the sovereign status of seer.
Sandra Lee Bartky, Foucault, Femininity and the Modernization of Patriarchal Power (via barbarakrugers)
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Canadian Blood Services is being accused of transphobia over a new policy to screen donors according to their genitalia.
As of Aug 15, 2016, CBS staff will categorize a trans woman who has not had gender-confirming surgery as male when evaluating whether the donor falls under the category of “men who have sex with men.” People in that category cannot donate blood unless they haven’t had sex with another man for 12 months.
Trans women who have had gender-confirming surgery will be screened by their “chosen sex,” according to the agency, though they will have to wait 12 months after the surgery to donate.
Montreal trans advocate Sophia Banks says she was “absolutely livid” to hear the policy.
“Why, if I have genital surgery, am I all of the sudden a woman? Especially if my ID can say ‘female?’” Banks asks. “They’re pretty much saying ‘penis equals male’ and I’m like, well this is really transphobic, and this is really cisnormative.”
Banks intends to sue CBS over the policy if Parliament encodes trans people into Canada’s human rights legislation.
“What science were they using to come to that conclusion, that if I have a vaginoplasty my blood is cleaner?” she says. “Where are they coming from, the 1980s?”
kernalmustache
This effects trans men as well. If you have a vagina you will be considered female.
this isn’t transphobic? this is just incredibly homophobic against gay men.
*eyes roll out of head*
Source: dailyxtra.com
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butch-chameleon
If literal children and teens come to you for help because they are afraid of having sex and you tell them they’ll “come around” or that they’re “transphobic”, then you’re a rape apologist. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Op is a terf
butch-chameleon
Oh good point
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The most important thing I know now that I didn’t know then is this: People who are dying are still living.
Dr. David Kuhl (via cycleoflifewithmark)
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Music speaks … the language of the deep, evoking imagery and memory, resonating with feeling, and transporting one beyond the bounds of ordinary awareness.”
D. Salmon; Music therapy as a psychospiritual process in palliative care, Journal of Palliative Care (via one-legged-piano)
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… those who saw a palliative care specialist stopped chemotherapy sooner, entered hospice far earlier, experienced less suffering at the end of their lives—and they lived 25 percent longer. In other words, our decision making in medicine has failed so spectacularly that we have reached the point of actively inflicting harm on patients rather than confronting the subject of mortality. If end-of-life discussions were an experimental drug, the FDA would approve it.
Atul Gawande, Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End (via shrinkrants)