"There is a long-held stigma against people considered to be having “too much” sex, but there’s also one held against those having “too little,” with the goalposts of judgment moving for every person and their individual opinions. Slut-shaming is a huge problem, with women in particular being ostracized for having multiple partners. On the flip-side, vanilla-shaming is a topic being spoken about a lot at the moment, with Tiktok trends glamorizing rough sex and shaming teenagers who aren’t thrilled with the idea of being choked when they haven’t even figured out what they like and what they don’t yet in terms of sex and sexuality.
People seem to have a problem with sex no matter how much or little you have of it, and that’s the true root of the problem. The number of people you choose to sleep with isn’t the crux of sexual liberation. People who choose to have sex with fewer (or no) people shouldn’t be ashamed, and neither should people who choose to have multiple partners. It’s all about the choice - having the agency to sleep with as many or as few people as you please. It doesn’t make you naïve or boring or a slut or a whore; it’s just a choice that you’ve made, and that in itself is sexually liberating."