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well. this wasn't on my 2021 bingo card
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I dislike how clumsy it is to share Twitter threads but here is a portion from a guy I follow (for his trans porn and monster fucking content at that) echoing a sentiment that aces, traumatized people, people with low libido, etc. can fully relate to. The rest is here and it’s absolutely worth the read.
it can be helpful to think ‘is there another activity I would enjoy more with a partner that gets me the thing I like about sex that isn’t actually sex (such as cuddles, intimacy, playfulness, etc.)’
but it equally okay to come to a decision that you are into/up for/open to sex sometimes for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with a sex drive or lack thereof
as long as you understand what your needs are and your boundaries, and you’re playing in a field where you’ve established good communication with your partner(s) and can trust they can also advocate for their needs and their boundaries, why not experiment? why not play? why not laugh at the sheer absurdity of embodiment and all the funny things that happen in acts of connection?
make sex less holy and less profane. it’s part of the body’s repertoire of being after puberty, no more, no less.
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“Run into a cave and break your ankle so that people have to come find you and they see you lying at the bottom of this beautiful cave and maybe there’s a waterfall and the light from the crystals makes you look really beautiful and they say “Are you okay?” and you say “I think so” and they say “oh my God have you been here alone this whole time with a broken ankle” and you say “it’s okay” and they say “you’re so brave” and you are brave and you look so beautiful surrounded by cave crystals and everyone stands over you and says “oh wow” and “you poor beautiful thing” and “I’m so sorry we let you run into the cave but I’m so glad we found you” and let them carry you home and promise to be your best friends forever and that everything’s their fault and also they named the cave after you and you’re prettier than all of your enemies and your enemies all died of jealousy while you were in the cave.”
— Daniel M. Lavery, How To Respond To Criticism (via boringoldraphael)
this bitch gets it
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I have more of an opinion question for you. When fans of things hear about misconduct happening on sets/behind-the-scenes are they allowed to still enjoy the thing? Or should it be boycotted completely? Example: I’ve been a major fan of Buffy the Vampire Slayer since I was a teenager and it was currently airing. I really nerded out on it and when I lost my Dad at age 16 “The Body” episode had me in such cathartic tears. Now we know about Joss Whedon. I haven’t rewatched a single episode since his behavior came to light. As a fan, do I respectfully have to just box that away? Is it disrespectful of the actors that went through it to knowingly keep watching?
I have been precisely where you are, right now. In fact, we were just talking about this a few days ago, as it relates to a guy who wrote a ton of music that was PROFOUND to me when I was a teenager. He wrote about being lonely and feeling unloved, and all the things I was feeling as a teenager.
He grew up to be a reprehensible bigot, and for years I couldn't listen to one of the most important bands in my life anymore.
But this week, someone pointed out that he was one member of a group that all worked together to make that thing that was so important to me. And the person he was when he wrote those lyrics is not the person he is today. And the person I was when I heard those lyrics doesn't deserve to be shoved into a box and put away, because that guy is a shit.
This is a long way of saying that Joss sure turned out to be garbage. Because of who I my friends are, I know stuff that isn't in the public, and it's pretty horrible. He's just not a good person, and apparently never was a good person.
BUT! Buffy is more than him. It's all the actors and crew who made it. It's all the writers who aren't Joss. Joss is part of it, sure, and some of the episodes he wrote are terrific.
At least one of the episodes he wrote was deeply meaningful to you at a moment in your life when you'd experienced a loss I can only imagine. The person you are now, and the 16 year-old you were who just lost their dad, are more important than the piece of shit Joss Whedon revealed himself to be.
His bad behavior is on him. He has to live with it, and the consequences of it.
16 year-old you, who just lost their dad, shouldn't have to think about what a shit Joss Whedon is for even a second. That kid, and you, deserve to have that place to revisit when you need to go there.
I can't speak for the other actors, even the ones I know. But I will tell you, as an abuse survivor myself who never wanted to be in front of the camera when he was a kid: it's really okay for you to enjoy the work. The work is good and meaningful, and if nobody is going to watch it because of what one piece of shit did two decades ago, what was it all for?
I'm not the pope of chilitown, so take this for what it's worth: I believe that when some piece of art is deeply meaningful to a person, for whatever reason, that art doesn't belong to the person who created it, if it ever did. It belongs to the person who found something meaningful in the art.
If it feels right to you to put it away and never look at it again, that's totally valid. But if it brings you comfort, or joy, or healing, or just warm familiarity to bring it out and spend some time with it, that's totally valid, too.
I've written a lot of words. I hope some of them make sense and are helpful to you.
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I totally get that *other* people either always or sometimes don’t want romance in the books they read but when people recommend books *to me* by saying, “And there’s no romance!” I’m like… do you know me AT ALL.
This is still one of my favorite posts because about 10 minutes after I posted it, I got an anon that just said, “ew”. 😂
w1tchmom
Listen I have a limited amount of time on this bitch of a planet and I’m not gonna waste a minute of it reading a novel where no one falls in love.
If the romance is well written, and characters are made for each other, than YES! Show me how they worship each other!
But also it’s nice to read something without romance once in a while. It may be funny, or sad, involving build-up of friendships, shows the interactions in a family, or it’s simply a well written Sci-fi/Fantasy/Crime-Novel.
You can also say: I’ll read everything as long as I like it ^^“
Why do people keep doing this?
Why are all the people who reblog this post so upset that some people like to have romance in all the books that they read? Like cool you don’t like romance but commenting that is COMPLETELY MISSING THE POINT OF THIS POST
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Things food snobs are wrong about
- “Organic” isn’t better for you or for the environment. It actually means nothing of any significance at best and is sometimes even the more wasteful, more hazardous option.
- A shitload of “natural” food including a lot of imported produce is grown and harvested through slave labor in inhumane conditions.
- Pizza, fried chicken, french fries, fast food, candy bars and chips ARE nutritious. They are loaded with good things. Just because they have an abundance of excess fats and might not be healthy as a staple doesn’t mean they are “nutritionless” or that their calories are “empty.” Those are hokey buzzwords pushed by the people in charge of how much you pay for the alternatives.
- Eating healthier costs more. Much more. Looking down on people for their reliance on cheaper food is extremely classist and expecting everyone to be able to live off fresh veggies and cage-free meats is insultingly unrealistic in the modern world.
- “Processed” literally only means the food went through some kind of automated process. This can be literally the exact same thing a human being would have done to the food for it to be labeled “unprocessed.” Being processed does not make something less healthy.
- Chemicals with long, scary names are part of nature. An apple is full of compounds you probably can’t pronounce. A shorter ingredients label only means they didn’t bother listing all 300 things the product is actually made of and HAS to be made of.
- Preservatives, artificial flavors and other additives are not the devil. Most are harmless and in general they are part of the reason you haven’t already starved to death or died of a food borne illness.
- MSG is not bad for you at all.
- The fact that something might be made of “scrap” meats like pig snouts or chicken necks only means one thing: that we didn’t waste perfectly normal, edible meat.
- I DON’T KNOW HOW I FORGOT THIS IN MY FIRST VERSION OF THIS POST BUT GMO’S ARE NOT DANGEROUS TO EAT. GMO’S ARE SAVING LIVES. YOU’VE ALREADY EATEN GMO’S BEFORE YOU EVEN KNEW THE TERM. IT’S FINE. EAT THEM.
So I’ve literally done this twice before and so have several other people but here are sources on all of these, most of them fairly recent academic studies or otherwise the most up-to-date I could find:
- Organic food isn’t better for you: [1] [2] [3]
- Tracing food industry slave labor: [1]
- Healthier food is more expensive: [1] [2]
- Saturated fats (i.e. “junk food”) still provide needed energy, aren’t as bad as people thought: [1] [2]
- “Processed” isn’t synonymous with less healthy, because it means a lot of different things: [1]
- “Chemicals” also means a lot of things and many food components are misunderstood by the general public: [1]
- MSG is not harmful: [1] [2] [3]
- GMO’s are not dangerous to eat: [400 sources collected here]
national-shitpost-registry
if you want to eat more ethically, literally the most powerful thing you can do is eat more local foods. eating pork from a pig farm 100 miles away does significantly less harm–to animals, to humans, to the biosphere–than eating quinoa grown on another continent. Eat local foods.
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yukika-moved-deactivated2022010
do y'all wanna hear some drama
yukika-moved-deactivated2022010
okay so basically some tech bro named chris evans (not the actor) founded this program of sorts called "skip the interview" where candidates can crowdfund money from their former co-workers (referred to as 'sponsors') to skip the entire interview process and begin work immediately. with the minimum donation being... fifty dollars...
and with companies requiring an upwards of TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS to essentially buy your way into a job...
ON TOP OF THAT, if you stay employed with them for more than two months, your SPONSORS (not you) get DOUBLE the amount of what they invested!
also there's this lil nugget too lmao
the website (now gone but here's a web archive link) got posted to twitter which then gained traction on a subreddit called r/recruitinghell where people rightfully dragged this guy to hell and back. so much that the ceo HIMSELF got on reddit to make a comment:
and now like i said the website is gone and i just think this whole thing is extremely funny.
TERRIBLE idea, as it turns out! But this is exactly how one should behave when corrected. He didn’t hide or blame anyone, he owned the mistake and thanked the public for the education in what seems like a sincere way.
People are allowed to screw up - having a bad idea does not make him a terrible person. Having the willingness to hear people say “this is discriminatory,” listen, believe them, and scrap the idea that he probably spent quite a bit of time on at least suggests he’s a good one.
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This is one of the biggest reasons that so many marginalized people write about aliens.
Right on.
This is why i roll my eyes whenever anyone complains queer people only get aliens and monsters. People don't understand the difference between "this wasn't made specifically for me" and "this is bad representation"
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I am so excited to announce the debut of my new series, Cryptid Club! Ever since I was a kid I’ve loved the mystery and lore surrounding these creatures and this was my chance to get to know them a bit better.
Find the series all across the web!
Updates every Tuesday and Thursday!
Reblog because I was able to fix the colors and I also made a Tumblr for this series! Hope you guys are enjoying <3
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SO in Britain all the swans may belong to the Queen, but lemme tell you about Hamburg:
Hamburg is built around a river, so there’s many many many canals (the 2400+ bridges put Venice and Amsterdam to shame), as well as a fairly sizeable lake (here the smaller section, innit precious):
This means a shittonne of swans
(stay away from the swans) (seriously don’t go sailing on the lake because they WILL chase you). Obvs swans aren’t made for cold weather (p sure they’re all Australian immigrants actually) so Hamburg has an official job position to take care of the issue.
This dude’s name is Olaf Nieß (trying to spell his name on non-German keyboards must be fun):
This guy’s job title is “Schwanenvater”, aka “swan father”, and his job literally consists of getting swans to safety before the winter chill sets in. How does he do this, you wonder? Easy: he goes up to EVERY SINGLE FUCKING SWAN in the city and sticks them in barges. I’m serious:
Look at this dude and his swans
Swans are like Satan’s personal pet and he paddles around with barges full of them like it’s nbd.
I fucking love this guy he’s braver than all of us and deserves some recognition for his absurd line of work.
pyjamazombie
I always learn new thing about my city….. this job must be tough!
This sounds like something for @elodieunderglass and her series of important birb facts.
Aaaah oh my goodness! THIS IS SO UP MY ALLEY, HOLY COW.
I was a little confused because mute swans (pictured)* are native to Northern Europe and are generally happy with cold weather (they’re quite significant in the folklore of, say, Northern Russia). In fact,my friend Dru posted a lovely video of some of my Swan Friends breaking ice here:
The cob, or daddy swan, is breaking the ice with his chest to make clear water for his family to feed in. Later the ducks (shown standing on the ice) will hop into the cleared water and enjoy the free foraging.
But then I remembered that wild Mute Swans tend to fuck off from the big rivers when it gets really cold and go somewhere warmer (such as a nice shallow pond) cos swans ain’t fools and they don’t actually like icebreaking. So why wouldn’t they want the swans in Hamburg to fuck off from the big rivers? Why are they putting them into small warm ponds for winter? Wouldn’t the swans just… do that themselves if they got cold enough?? Why do you need to have a guy go out and grab them before they do anything? THIS IS IMPLYING THAT THESE ARE NOT WILD SWANS, BUT MUNICIPAL SWANS.
AND APPARENTLY, I researched this 5 minutes ago, APPARENTLY there is a prophecy about these swans that is similar to the prophecy of the Ravens of the Tower of London : “As long as the proud swans draw circles on the Alster, Hamburg will be a free and prosperous Hanseatic City.” The swans also served the practical purpose of demonstrating that Hamburg was a free and independent city, because previously, only royal Europeans had swans.
So they are not exactly wild swans! The Swanfather cares for the swans year-round - they’re municipal animals - and in the winter he brings the swans to a place where they can “draw circles on the Alster” without fucking off entirely, and show off to everyone that Hamburg is a strong independent city that don’t need no king.
SO the Ravenmaster of London is a position that exists because if the ravens leave the tower, a prophecy says that England will fall. And the Swanfather of Hamburg exists because if the swans leave the Alster, Hamburg will stop prospering. The Swanfather role has existed since 1674, about the same time as when the Ravenmaster job was set up. I guess there was a lucrative trade in bird-related political prophecies at the time. CLEARLY I HAVE MISSED MY CALLING???
* OP is confused - the swans that are immigrants from Australia are Black Swans, and the swans on the river in Hamburg are Mute Swans.
Also, ALSO, I need to insert my standard disclaimer here: SWANS ARE NOT EVIL. THEY ARE NOT ASSHOLES. THEY ARE LARGE ANIMALS THAT LIVE IN CLOSE CONTACT WITH HUMANS BUT ARE NOT SUBMISSIVE TOWARDS HUMANS.
A huge amount of people’s fear/anxiety/outrage about swans and geese is because these large wild animals have the AUDACITY to live near humans, and to interact with humans, but not in a fearful and submissive way. Swans aren’t afraid of humans - why should they be? - and that makes us escalate our own behavior, because we expect animals to be either loving or afraid. So we often do silly things to swans, such as poking our hands at them, provoking them, threatening their young, using incredibly aggressive body language when we see them, approaching them with kayaks (kayaks are Incredibly Rude for swans) and allowing our companion animals to behave threateningly towards them while we giggle.
Then the swan indicates (fairly politely) that we are being rude and need to give them more space… and we complain that swans are disrespectful, mean and scary. Most of swan politeness is about giving them space, not making direct eye contact, and not pointing at them, or flailing your hands around, or waving a paddle at them, or looking directly at their babies, or letting a dog approach them. BUT PEOPLE ARE INCAPABLE OF DOING THAT, so they complain that swans are Satan.
In reality, they are just large wild animals that are often quite happy to be “nice” to humans, and will recognize ones that are trustworthy.
Look how nicely they’re sitting in their little boats to go to their winter pond.
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Healthy relationships are clearly better in real-life but fucked-up ones are way more dramatically interesting in fiction. In much the same way–indeed, in exactly the same way–that feudal monarchy is a hell of a lot of fun in fantasy and historical fiction novels, but complete shit to actually live under.
Feudal monarchy is so hilarious because it’s just like: “What if we based our entire sociopolitical structure on fucked-up family dynamics?”
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justchubbycats
Reblog this fat happy boy for a good night sleep tonight
Nothing bad happens if you don’t! Just a cute good luck charm
justchubbycats
He brings no harm, only good fortune and good dreams
Help me sleep, oh round furry incarnation of luck.
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anovelimagination
YOU HAVE THE SAME FUCKING FACE.
surprisebitch
reblogging on october 11
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people with social anxiety hyping each other up like omg yes queen you’re looking very passive and unremarkable. i wouldnt spare you a second glance on the street