I Have Confidence / I Believe

The similarities between Baymax and Tadashi show that Baymax is Tadashi. He literally meant it when he told Hiro, “Tadashi is here.”

@ms-woodsworld

Michael Rios/PolyInfo (via bipolyamorist)

When I explain a queer term to a queer person:

When I explain a queer term to a non-queer person:

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I have no caption for this.

The snow glows white on the mountain tonight. For the sake of your health, please remain indoors.

I just can’t

On rape fantasies, BDSM, and other kinks of imaginary or consensual violence

There seems to be this idea going around that women can have (SSC—and the “consensual” part only applies to the real world, not fantasy) kinks that aren’t “feminist,” The whole, “You can enjoy it if you want, but you have to admit it’s problematic” thing, and people having the kinks just generally feeling guilty—especially women who want to be dominated by men, or women who have rape fantasies. (Rape fantasies being one of the most common kinks women have.)

Here’s the thing: a rule that works for media in general should evaporate like the morning dew when it comes to my lady boners. Because it still comes down to controlling women’s sexuality. It comes down to setting rules, making us apologize for it. Fap fantasies are fictional, the women getting off on them are not. I’m going to prioritize that real woman (and her pleasure) every time. Every woman having an orgasm is a feminist act. Women not having to justify the things that give them pleasure, provided no one else is harmed, is a subversive, wonderful, feminist act.

However, it seems to be making matters worse that people have an incredibly poor understanding of why people have violent sexual fantasies, including but not limited to rape fantasies, to begin with. The old chestnut about how it allows women to experience “sex” without having to feel like sluts for saying yes is still getting circulated, and looking increasingly absurd. There are women who will leave their dildos out when they have company over and tell you more about their sexual habits than you ever wanted to know, who still have rape fantasies. They’re not afraid of consent or agency, that’s absurd.

Others believe they may had internalized some male gaze bullshit telling them rape is sexy. While it’s true we’ve internalized a lot of bullshit in general, the message women are given about rape (especially the violent, anonymous rape many women fantasize about) is certainly not that we should enjoy it—we’re told that it’s “the worst thing that can ever happen to a woman,” we’re told it will damage us for life. The phrase “a fate worse than death” was originally coined to describe rape.

The real reason for it is so simple it’s gonna blow your mind.

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of course fox news was complaining about youtubers interviewing the president

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GloZell asks the President about normalizing relations with Cuba, systemic racism in the American justice system, and marriage equality. 

Fox News makes jokes about real people who have developed real audiences without buying space on cable TV; criticizes President’s suit; wonders if maybe Tom Brady played with deflated balls in game of catch.

NEXT ON FOX NEWS: BIZARRE INTERVIEW INCLUDES QUESTIONS, ANSWERS.

atmidnightcc - January 14th, 2015 - Free the Nipple

Both of those are completely okay ways to age. Emma Watson played a well loved brainiac in the movies, making it very easy for her to be liked as a regular person. Also she aged on screen so it didn’t shock the world when she became an adult. Also everyone knew she wasn’t the character she played. Miley Cyrus played a pop star in a long running tv show but she also played a fictional version of herself. She did not age on screen and like pretty much every star little girls have loved there was lots of people who didn’t like her. She is now an adult. She has a different personality than the characters she played on screen and because the character she played was supposed to be her it is hard for people to accept it. 

Also the pictures chosen for this post are totally biased. Look:

Do these two pictures make them seem drastically different? And they could quickly be bias the other way.

Which one looks sweet now? So stop being a dick. Miley Cyrus is an adult who is different than the child character she played. Also in no way is she the only star that wears little clothes and acts sexual. 

Boom. Parenting done right. 

Harry Connick Jr. talking about his daughters dating on Ellen.

The entire overprotective dad trend is unhealthy, gross bullshit anyway.

I LOVE HARRY CONNICK JR

Hey there! I’m aro/ace and poly! Before I realised that asexuality and polyamory were things I could do, I figured my ideal relationship(s) would be a housemate or two, with their own interests/hobbies/love lives, that I could snuggle up on a couch with of an evening. I live for hugs, my sister once suggested I marry an octopus as that way I could get constant hugs and they’d still have enough tentacles left over to live their lives.

I found out about asexuality and went to an ace meetup group. There was a guy there (henceforth referred to as 1, though we are by no means heirarchical) who seemed like he’d be good to hug, and he said he liked hugs. At my third meetup as I was leaving I offered hugs to anyone in the group who wanted one, and this guy gave me the best hug I’d ever had. When it lasted longer than the socially acceptable three seconds, someone said “you know, hugs are supposed to end” and 1 said he believed that the person who initiated the hug should be the one to terminate it, as they should be allowed to decide when they’d had enough. I though; “in that case, your place or mine? Because this isnt going to end anytime soon, by those rules”.

After a week or two, 1 and I met up just the two of us for an afternoon of snuggles/naps in a park. As we were leaving I asked if we could do this again, and he almost panicked at the suggestion. Neither of us want hearts and flowers and marriage and being two halves of a whole kind of entwined coupledom, so I had to explain that I didn’t want that, just frequent hugs. He agreed, and we’ve been seeing each other about once a week since then. After about a month we asked each other how we felt about kissing, and gradually added that. We do sensual things sometimes now, topless cuddles, massages etc, probably what allosexual people would describe as foreplay but are also happy to spend the evening lying next to each other in our pyjamas watching anime.

Seeing as neither of us felt it would be logical or in any way fun at all to bar the other from having hugs with other people, we’ve always been kind of open that way. He has a couple of good friends who he has hugs and naps with, and I started seeing someone else from the ace meetup group. (Well, two, but one fizzled out real fast.) Anyway, 2 and I started holding hands a bit at meetups. She had a girlfriend at the time, who didn’t want me to exist, so I didn’t push too much. 2 and I have kissed once or twice, but I don’t know if she wants that or if she’d rather we just stick to hanging out and exclaiming about how Toothless’ prosthetic tail really wouldn’t work.

And then there’s another guy, 3, who I’ve known for years, who has always made my head spin. One of those people who when they talk with you, you feel like you’re the only thing in existence, they’re focussing on you so hard. Lovely guy, great listener. Anyway, he’s completely straight and doesn’t really get the whole ace thing, especially since I like touch so much. He has a girlfriend who can’t handle the idea of sharing him, so I’m not pushing there, but he knows I’d be up for snuggles and kisses, and I know he’s interested.

Anyway, that’s me, aro, ace and poly. I’m extremely happy to have found the right communities of people to let me be myself. I’m happy to talk to spread awareness and understanding, I understand I’m a bit rare.

I’d also like to say I feel inherently poly. No matter who I was with, I’d feel constrained if I was not able to form connections with others. I’d also feel decidedly panicky if someone felt I was their life partner and expected me to be their sole emotional support. Essentially I’d feel wrong if I was half of a couple. And it does kinda annoy me when the reaction to ace polyamorists is “that way you don’t have to feel guilty about not providing sex for your partner!”. Because I am poly, independent of my aceness.

Thanks for reading!

tl;dr, I am aro/ace/poly, and I exist :-)

Thank you so much for this explanation! It makes much more sense to me now.