But breaking your heart breaks mine, I canโt hide it.
national library, Vienna
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got told at lunch "you feel like Tumblr Incarnate" and i had to tell them i've been here for 13 years and counting. i was here three years before dashcon happened. i saw the mishapocalypse. i survived the gigapause. i've been here longer than the shoelaces post. i've been here since it was hipsters versus fandom and i played both sides extensively by overdoing the sepia filters on everything and making my own flashing galaxy gif edits for my fandom posts. i'm every tumblr. it's all in me
Oh ancient one what wisdom do you hold?
- 99% of callout posts are bullshit and just petty personal drama someone is escalating to get even on a grudge. do not engage with these, do not freelance as a cop
- DNIs do not work. accept this. internalize that people you don't like will see your posts and engage with them. this is unavoidable and the sooner you make peace with it the freer your mind will be. block the freaks and don't sweat the small stuff
- building a tight knit circle of fellow weirdos who vibe with your particular quirks and taste is infinitely more rewarding and sustainable than chasing the biggest numbers
- don't respond to bad-faith arguments or bad takes; just block people, blacklist tags, filter post content, and move on. don't feed the trolls (or the bigots)
- don't hate-follow
- don't tag your hate (ex. if you're posting about how much you hate a ship, don't tag it as that ship, etc.)
- don't feel obligated to keep following someone who posts stuff that upsets/depresses/angers/bores you just because you know them really well, or because you're mutuals, or because you used to like what they post. following is nothing personal and neither is unfollowing
- op doesn't know you; avoid parasocial relationships
- don't pick fights or reblog posts just to disagree/argue
- spread joy and positivity in your circles
- disable anonymous asks
This is some of the best social media advice (and advice for being a human among humans generally) I've ever seen.
All of this. For people asking how I've survived here for over 12 years...
yr locked in a room alone with three adult men but you feel perfectly safe. who are they
I mean, I feel safe from them but Iโm suddenly EXTREMELY worried about what shenanigans Iโve stumbled into
โThese men mean me no harmโ
โSo you feel safe now?โ
โOh, absolutely notโ
22/11/23
"I must have flowers, always, and always."
- Claude Monet
The start of a lovely day.
a little shelter.
Winter takes and gives, and we must allow it to pass.
"we need more weird gays" you can't handle aces & aros. you can't handle queer-platonic relationships. you can't handle it/its users. you can't handle neopronouns and xenogenders. you can't handle polyamory.
you all get so bent out of shape and HAVE to give your opinions on how WEIRD and ANNOYING and DEVESTATING these things are to you like damn what makes you different, exactly, from homophobes?
you all literally sound like boomers stomping your feet and sobbing over shit that literally does not effect you in any way. if you dont like these things, here's a thought: keep it to yourself!
Yโall are really watching Private Practice and romanticizing Cooper??? Are we watching the same show????