Iyanla Vanzant (via nymphoblues)
Happy Anniversary ❤️ I love you and miss you so much! Can't wait to see you again! #latepost
Three cheers for these guys [x]
This is how to be a good ally.
Using their Bro-ness for good, not evil
So a tiny story: on Black Friday a few weeks ago I went to Gamestop to buy my brother a game for Christmas, and I noticed this older man was watching me like a hawk. He was loitering around the front of the store without really buying anything, and every time I glanced at him out of the corner of my eye he was looking at me. I went to look at the PS4 games, and he was looking at something right behind me. I checked out the Nintendo games, and he was looking at them too. I was the only woman in the store, by the way.
By the time I got in line to pay he was loitering at the front of the store again, and I just had that feeling that he was going to try and take the game I just bought, or steal my purse, as soon as I left the store. OR, he was going to try and follow me home. And I know I don’t have to explain that terror to any woman reading this, but all I could think was that I’m in this Gamestop alone with at least twenty other men and something is about to happen. I’m beginning to freak out, to the point where I’ve just pulled my pepper spray out of my purse and into the pocket of my coat.
So there I am, next in line to pay, and there is this GIGANTIC dudebro right behind me, and I say gigantic as a 6 foot tall woman. He says, “Ma’am? Don’t be offended, but would it be alright if I walked you to your car?” and I was like “Are you serious?” and he was like “There are some weird guys in here right now. Have you noticed that guy watching you?” and then I showed the dudebro the pepper spray in my pocket and he was like “Right on. Would you still let me walk you to your car?” and I said yes.
So I paid, and waited while HE paid, and he walked me to my car. And just as I was getting in, the weird guy who’d been loitering came out of the store, saw me and my dudebro, and turned around and walked away in the opposite direction.
In short: men who recognize that women are unsafe in dark alleys, college campuses, grocery stores, gas stations and retail stores and do something about it are the kind of quality men that this world needs more of.
Please for the love of god yes.
Ahh some time has past now.
Dang not being able to really talk for a day got me messed up. Ahah. Usually I'm talking up storms. Talking distracts me from overthinking.
I wish I’m hugging you instead of missing you. 😔
Source John Koenig, writer and creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows.
One day this won't be a problem anymore.
The older I get the harder it is to cope with when someone I know passes away.
Dear Grandpa Peanuts, Last week was the last time I saw you. It had actually been months since I last seen you before. I’m sad to think that two years ago I did not realize it would be my last Thanksgiving and Christmas I spent with you. The most recent holidays the family didn’t really take you out when the parties happened because they were in some argument with you. When I saw you last week I was happy to see you still the same as ever, always coming up with some plan to make it back to Nebraska. Oh you loved Nebraska so much. The thing about the last time I saw you was that you didn’t seem sick or anything. I just knew you were upset because of others. I also didn’t think it’d be the last time I saw you. It always made me upset whenever I thought about how the others treated you. I felt terrible because they didn’t understand how much patience and understanding it takes to help take care of an elderly person. Their ignorance and lack of patient made me so angry with them. Sometimes I feel like it was because of them you wanted to die. I also knew you wanted to be with Grandma Martha too. The last couple of times I got to see you this past year, you would always seems to bring up how you just wanted to die already. You always complained how the others didn’t take care of you. I myself even witnessed the others speaking horrible things about you. Things that shouldn’t have ever been made fun of or teased about. I know you and Granny had a dramatic past and it was extremely hard for my dad to forgive you for that. You never missed a single birthday each year. You and grandma would always send a birthday card to each grandchild. I’m so happy I kept a few of them. I was always your Geisha girl. You’ve called me that ever since I was little. You would always tease me and tell me that a little birdie told you that I’d gone and married the boy I was currently dating. My favorite memory is when we would go to the mall with you and grandma. She’d always want to go to Bath and Body Works. We would always eat at buffets. I saw you and grandma at least once a year up until grandma passed away. I remember day that so clearly. It was my graduation you two were supposed you come up but unfortunately it couldn’t happen. Ever since that it was even more rare to see you. I know I had unlimited chances to see you once you moved to Vegas. I was stupid for not taking the time to drive over and see you. Please forgive me for that. I hope there was never a moment where you questioned if I cared or loved you. I love you so much. The way dad’s family dynamics were made it difficult for me to be more open to go and visit often. Now you have gone. I hope the others apologized to you before it was too late. I hope they realized that everything they said or did to you was inappropriate. It bugs me so much whenever I see them post things on Facebook saying that they miss you because all I could think about is the horrible things they said to you. I have to forgive them for that. I’m sorry I can’t make it to your funeral but please don’t ever forget I’m always going to be thinking about you and Grandma. I love and miss you so much. Well Grandpa, I hope you have found Grandma and reunited with her. I know you’ll finally find the peace you’ve been looking for once you’re with her. Rest In Peace Grandpa ❤️
