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As Valentine’s Day swiftly approaches, I just want to say that it’s okay to feel conflicted about the holiday if you’re aro.

Personally, I’m trying to reach a middle ground between rightfully hating the day and wanting nothing to do with it, and using it as a day to show my friends how much I care about them and stubbornly treat the holiday as being for platonic love.

But at the same time, I know all those messages of “Valentine’s Day is for friends too!” and “If you’re single, make Valentine’s Day a self-care day!” and “Well, there’s always the discount chocolates!” often ring really hollow. We’re bitter towards Valentine’s Day as being 99% all for romantic love because that’s what we’ve experienced, and it can be incredibly frustrating to criticize the holiday only to have someone either accuse you of just being jealous and making everyone else miserable, or try to appease you by saying “oh but it’s for friends too!” as if they mean it (all things alloromantic folks have said to me, by the way).

It’s okay to completely detest Valentine’s Day and want nothing to do with it whatsoever. It’s okay to use it as an excuse to be unabashedly sappy about loving your friends/family/QPPs etc. But it’s also okay to flounder in some sort of middle ground, where you want to enjoy the day but still can’t help feeling bitter, dehumanized, and alienated. The important thing is to remind yourself that regardless, it’s just another day and you will get through it. You’ve gotten through all the days before it and you’ll get through this one too.

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