Q&A with Dan and Phil

Merry Christmas Eve!!

Life has been busy again but many good changes. I got married!! Highly considering a job change and we are talking about moving next year! So happy!!

The difference between Dan and Phil’s acceptance with being gay really shows how an environment can make you or break you. Phil has, for the most part, been out for years. His parents were okay with it, he had supportive friends, and when it came to announcing it to us, there was no hesitation. I have a feeling that, if not for Dan, Phil wouldn’t have waited this long to come out.

Dan, on the other hand, grew up with parents who made comments demeaning the lgbt community (even if it wasn’t a direct intention), and friends who did the same. He was ruthlessly bullied and instead of having a community he could come out to (like Phil did in college), he hid further and further within himself and rejected who he was completely.

Their videos showed many similarities but also huge differences, and that’s why they’re both so important. It should also be a huge neon sign flashing in peoples faces showing why some people wait to come out while others don’t.

I also love that it shows how no matter what your circumstances are, what your environment is, or when you come out, everything will be okay and it will get better.

what i love the most about phil’s vid is that it represents a queer narrative that is so common in experience but still so uncommon in media. a narrative about someone who knew they were gay from a young age, without question. who was closeted, but not in a significantly traumatic way. who was outed against their will, but took control of the situation.

it resonates for me in a completely different way than dan’s video did. it resonates with the part of me that so desperately wants it to not matter that i’m queer. that wants to just live the simplicities of my life and know that other queer people are out there doing the same.

“i’m gay, it’s great, i’m happy.”

that’s power.

So proud of Phil as well. His video was so delightful, funny, and heartwarming. I’m so glad that influencers like Phil (and Dan) exist to provide reassurance and hope to members of the LGBTQ+ community. I wish Phil all the best and I am so happy to have such an immense amount of respect for him all these years later.

I felt it was time to share this as hopefully my story will help! 

Coming Out To You 

Yes Phil! I love you and I’m proud of you. I’m glad you felt comfortable enough to share this with us🖤🖤🖤🖤

basically, i’m gay & coming out to you

aaaaaaaaaahhhhh!!!! i havent had the chance to watch phil’s video yet but im still so so very proud of him!!

I’m just very happy for him, ok?? ❤︎

@danielhowell

I’m Gay - Eugene Lee Yang

Basically I’m Gay

guys….he’s done it.

and i could NOT be prouder ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

congrats @danielhowell for living your truth, today and every day from now on!!!

This is so beautiful, Alexa play I’m Coming Out by Diana Ross

Remember guys, even though Dan is officially out. He has specifically stated in this video that he and Phil want to keep this part of their life private. RESPECT THEM!

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