Harassment
I’d like to talk about something quite personal. And yes, I am indeed going to share that little something with the Internet.
Sexual harassment.
Up until last year, I never really took this world seriously. There has always been a lot of discussion about it in the media, loads of campaigns, documentaries, trials and so on. I’ve always known it’s a serious thing. I’ve always known, in a way, what it is. But I never thought I’d ever experience it at such level at such young age (side note: I’m 15 and English isn’t my native language so I apologize for any mistakes beforehand).
Okay let’s be a bit more specific, my story is going to be about sexual harassment among 14-15 year old students at school.
It started about two years ago. You know, these basic dirty jokes taken to a next level, talking about sex openly in a way that is definitely not appropriate, some “accidental” touching here and there (you know what I mean) and everything that’s told to be normal among kids at that age.
It’s hormones, they say.
This year, things have turned more out of control. Even more sexualizing, dirty comments, throwing paper pieces pretending it’s just “basketball” and hitting the “targets” is fun,
- buy hey it’s a shirt not a basket and your targets are my breasts, my very normal breasts, every girl has them
boys taking inappropriate pictures of girls, cameras under skirts, cameras between boobs, cameras everywhere. Oh it’s just provocative clothing, wear large sweaters, they say. Cover your body, they say.
- but hey what if I am wearing a large sweater, it won’t stop them
- but hey I’m dressed in a very proper way
- but hey I have every right to wear what I want
- but hey why should I stop myself from wearing what I want because you know, I just might get raped
Touching, fumbling, pinching, grabbing, holding, squeezing… Opening your bras, pulling your shirt and skirt, taking off your sweater. They just need to get physical contact so, so bad they’d do anything. They just touch you all they time (side note: remember, I’m talking about 14-15 year old students)
- but hey I don’t want you to touch me and NO, it’s not fun at all
Oh but why don’t you do anything, just defend yourself, they say.
- but hey easier to say than do
Today during class when the teacher went out to print out some worksheets, I was writing a summary (side note: there were about 20 kids in the class). While I was writing, two boys attacked me from the sides and one from the back. They did all of the things mentioned above. Every. Single. Thing. Mentioned.
AND NO ONE, NOT A SINGLE PERSON IN THE CLASSROOM THOUGHT THAT THIS MIGHT BE SERIOUS. THEY DID NOTHING. THEY JUST SAT THERE (side note: I get along with my class extremely well, they are all my very dear friends).
“We thought you were enjoying this. You’ve always gone with it.”
But there was something new. This time they didn’t just open my bra. They took it off. They took off my pants, my tights. They took my courage. (side note: I did indeed defend myself every way I could)
At first, some of them laughed, some of them ignored.
Luckily for me, there happened to be one girl to come help me. But oh, the boys tried to use her too up until another girl joined (thanks to whom everything started to settle down again) and managed to get some other girls to help us out too.
When teachers steps echoed in the hallway, everyone got back to their seats. When the teacher stepped in, everything seemed to be as it had been before. Except my mood. Except that fact that everyone but the teacher knew something…
“Oh is she depressed now or something? Ha maybe she’s crying what a pussy.”
- but hey, the only thing keeping me from being depressed was/is the fact that luckily, I wasn’t raped.
- yet
Don’t be suspicious
me after I smoke a blunt in public
OHMYGOD.
Why would there be a bottle of wine on the stove?!
WTF Barbie you can’t use a cutting board for a bulletin board
BARBIE! you should know better than to leave a cheese grater on the edge of the fridge! someone could get hurt!
Um, okay, DOES NO ONE REALIZE THAT BARBIE is cleaning her kitchen floor with a garden hose? Get it together, Barbie.
OH MY GOD BARBIE! ARE YOU JUST GOING TO LEAVE THOSE DIRTY DISHES IN YOUR SINK? SERIOUSLY GET IT TOGETHER BARBIE!
…Seriously?
People. Wow. Open your EYES.
Is NOBODY going to point out how Barbie is CLEANING HER FLOOR
IN
WHITE
PANTS???
CLOSE THE DAMN REFRIGERATOR! YOUR LETTING ALL THGE COLD OUT!
Barbie, seriously? The blender on top of the fridge? You could get hurt!!1
Guys for the love of god how can you not notice the freaking rat next to the fridge?! WTF Barbie? Clean your house more often, would ya?
Barbie, who the hell puts a calculator on their fridge. COME ON! GET WITH THE TIMES!
I love how everyone pretends not to notice the toaster next to the sink. BARBIE! YOU COULD GET ELECTROCUTED IF THAT FELL IN! GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER GURL!
what the hell is wrong with you people???!?!?!
omfg how can you not notice the fact the fridge has three layers of drawers on the bottom? what the fuck?? barbie fridges dont work that way im sorry
SERIOUSLY?!! YOU PEOPLE ARE SICK! CAN YOU SEE THAT A SERIOUS CRIME HAS BEEN COMMITTED HERE?!!
THAT WALLPAPER! IT’S HIDEOUS! Get a freakin’ sense of style, woman!
theres a dead body
how many times people are mentioned in Hamilton the musical
excluded terms include: “immigrant”, “he”, “she”, any title, “my father”, “my mother”, “my sister”, “son”, “the Schuyler sisters”, “daddy”, “sir”, “you”, “I”, “me”, “her”, “we”, “my wife”, “this man”
i am unconscious of intentional error - i am nevertheless too sensible of my defects not to think it probable that i may have committed many errors
that is to say i probably fucked up somewhere i am sorry
basically this was a names thing
Maria Reynolds - 1
King George - 1 (called “the king” five further times)
Philip Schuyler - 2
James Reynolds - 4
Hercules Mulligan - 4
George Eacker - 5
Peggy Schuyler - 5
John Laurens - 7
Philip Hamilton - 8
Charles Lee - 9
James Maddison - 13
Marquis de Lafayette - 14
George Washington - 25
Eliza Schuyler/Hamilton - 30
Angelica Schuyler - 32
Thomas Jefferson - 50
Aaron Burr - 57
Alexander Hamilton - one hundred and twenty three
I don’t know why.. But I really like this.
I’m absolutely in love with this.
a foreign feature film with hints of horror based on actual events in Siberia back in Soviet times that once shocked the whole world…
If you had a special knack for finding things, it meant you owed the world to look.
That awkward moment when you don't know if a car is going to let you cross.
this.
hahahaha
EXACT REACTION OMG
omfg 267% accurate
leslie knope: first and last lines of each season
Live your life by the mantra “what would someone who loves themselves do?”
Ask yourself this question when facing inner turmoil or with a tough decision to make. Ask yourself when bored or find yourself with free time. Ask yourself this question every day, and let it guide your actions.
If you’re wondering “should I eat this?”, “should I leave that toxic relationship?”, “should I go to that yoga class”?, “should I write that vulnerable post online?” - no matter what choice you’re facing - respond to your own question with another, ask what someone who loves themselves would do, and there you will find your answer.
This has been my thanksgiving.
“Being Adam Parrish was a complicated thing, a wonder of muscles and organs, synapses and nerves. He was a miracle of moving parts, a study in survival. The most important thing to Adam Parrish, though, had always been free will, the ability to be his own master.”
another meme i won’t finish: [1/5] female characters ▷ regina mills I always felt there were two kinds of people: wolves and sheep - those who kill and those who get killed.
“The real Maria was not in love with Captain von Trapp … At least not at first. In the movie ‘The Sound of Music’, Maria fell for the children and Georg von Trapp simultaneously. But in real life when he proposed, “I really and truly was not in love,” Maria wrote in her 1948 memoir. “I liked him but I didn’t love him. However, I loved the children, and so in a way I really married the children. By and by I learned to love him more than I have ever loved before or after.””
“Well,” said Ronan, “I hope he likes it. I’ve pulled a muscle.”
Gansey scoffed, “Doing what? You were standing watch.”
“Opening my hood.”