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of innocence and of experience

@littlerayofandrea

yes, I'm still alive. twitter: @phambition
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u know when there's an article or something abt a historical person and everyone is like "don't try to apply modern gender labels to her, this was clearly a woman who cross-dressed for better opportunities/education/safety!" and I'm like sure that tracks, there's been countless women in history who were women but dressed as men in order to get an education/fight in a war and so on

and then I read the contemporary sources on this person and it's full of "he threatened to shoot anyone who called him a woman" and "petitioned the local government to legally consider him a man, on the grounds of 'I live as a man anyway'" and "he always said he should have been born a man and it was only by misfortune that he was born a woman"

like... babes, I do agree with not applying modern labels to historical people, but this does not sound like someone who just cross-dressed for better opportunities

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gynecologist offices and women’s clinics are for people who have uteruses and vaginas and ovaries and breasts. even if those people are not women. even if those people are men with facial hair and deep voices and adams apples. im a man with sideburns and a baritone voice and I’ve had an abortion, surgery for endometriosis and an ovarian cystectomy. restricting access to these spaces based on gender would kill me lol

as a trans intersex man who has had an abortion: yeah

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Idk why nurses are not allowed to teach harm reduction in their workplaces.

I can say "don't do drugs" and end it at that all I want.

But I can't say "if you're going to do drugs, do them safely" and teach people how to actually prevent death or mental harm?

Anyways --

Snorting is safer than injecting.

Do drugs with other people. Never alone.

Buy some narcan. Your drugs might have fentanyl in them - the lethal dose for fentanyl is TWO (2) MILLIGRAMS, which is about the weight of a small mosquito.

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missmentelle

What to do if you are facing eviction

Eviction protections are expiring across the United States and Canada right now, and millions of people are suddenly finding themselves facing eviction with a pandemic still raging and the start of winter just around the corner. 

Not knowing where you’re going to live next month is an unbelievably scary position to be in, and there are a lot of people out there who are facing this for the first time in their lives. It’s okay to be scared. But it’s also important to start taking steps to deal with this as soon as you realize that might be at risk of eviction. 

As someone who has worked in homelessness and housing advocacy my whole career, here’s what I recommend you do:

  • Do not leave your home. Many landlords count on their tenants not knowing or understanding their rights, and take advantage of that to try to illegally evict them without following proper procedure. I have seen landlords attempt some flagrantly illegal things during my time working with vulnerable people. Many landlords have been ignoring and violating eviction moratoriums during this pandemic. Don’t fall for it. There is a legal process that has to be followed to evict you, even if your name isn’t on the lease - your landlord cannot simply slip a note under your door ordering you out by the end of the week, no matter what they tell you. Do not leave your home until a judge orders you to do so. You may have a better shot in court than you think you do, and seeing the court process to the very end buys you valuable time to figure out your next move. 
  • Get a lawyer. Many legal aid societies and law school legal clinics offer free legal assistance for people facing eviction. Having a lawyer can make an enormous difference - one study found that people without lawyers were evicted 65% of the time, compared to just 15% of people who had legal representation. Start calling and contacting legal aid services as soon as your landlord threatens or files eviction - these services often only do intake for new clients on certain days, so it’s a good idea to research these services ahead of time. 
  • Understand your rights. The protections you have under the law depend on where you live - it’s critical that you take the time to educate yourself about what those protections are. Your area will likely have a Residential Tenancies Act, a Tenant Act, or something along those lines. Look online for information specific to your area. There may also be special protections and procedures in place because of the pandemic. If you live in NYC, for instance, you have a right to free legal counsel if you are facing eviction. Find out what protections you have in your area.
  • Contact resources in your area. Again, depending on where you live, there are different resources available. There may be a tenant support agency that can connect you to free legal resources directly. You might be eligible for unemployment benefits or emergency income. Your state or city might also have emergency funding or eviction prevention programs in place. NYC, for instance, offers “one shot deal” emergency grants that cover rental arrears for people who are facing eviction due to unexpected crises. You should also look at emergency housing options, community food banks, or other resources that can help you survive this situation. In many cities you can call 211 or 311 to learn more or about resources, or you can go online. 
  • Attend your eviction hearing. Once you are given a date and time for your eviction hearing, it is critical that you attend. Even if you have not paid rent in several months and you think your case is hopeless, you absolutely must show up for this hearing. If you don’t attend, you will lose by default - if you attend, you may be successful in winning leniency, the opportunity to pay back rent with a payment plan and avoid eviction, or even just a few weeks’ extension on the eviction date so you have more time to come up with a plan. Attend your hearing. 
  • Have a back-up plan. Even with legal aid resources on your side, you have to prepare for the possibility that you might not be able to fight your eviction. Buy yourself as much time as you can, and use that time to start researching possible options. Is there a cheaper room for rent that you can afford with your unemployment benefits? Do you know anyone you can stay with? Are there any housing non-profits in your area that can help? Do you have any leads on employment in the future? Explore your options, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help right now - people in your life can’t help you unless you tell them that you’re struggling. 
  • Call your representatives. You are not the only person suffering as a result of expiring COVID protections - your elected officials need to know that letting these programs expire is having serious, dire consequences for real people that they represent. Call everyone. Call the office of your congressman, call your MP, call your state senator, your MLA, your local city counsellors. Tell your story, and make as much noise as you can. It doesn’t guarantee that anything will be done, of course, but it makes the problem harder for your elected officials to ignore.

Important Resources for Americans: LawHelp.org - website for learning more about local laws and finding free legal aid in your area  JustShelter - a database of community resources available to people facing eviction (might not include all emergency pandemic programs) Eviction Moratorium Database - a database showing where evictions have been legally paused or restricted because of the pandemic National Evictions Database - a database where you can look up what the legal eviction process is supposed to look like in your state  Tenant’s Union Resources - a website where you can find information for the tenant’s union or pro-tenant organizations in your area  Legal Services - a federal non-profit that helps connect low-income households to legal resources for fighting eviction 

Fannie Mae Renters Resource Finder - a database that will tell you if your rental unit is federally financed, and show you resources to fight eviction accordingly  Freddie Mac Renters Resource Finder - another website to show you if your rental property is federally backed and connect you to resources

Eviction Lab - a website that outlines information about pandemic eviction moratoriums and restrictions currently in place in your state The National Housing Law Project - a comprehensive database of resources for people facing eviction or foreclosure  Important Resources for Canadians: The Canada Mortgage and Housing Corporation - up-to-date information about eviction moratoriums in each province and territory  Affordable Housing Programs Across Canada - information on affordable housing programs in each province and territory Western Law Eviction Information - a website outlining the eviction process in Ontario and what you need to do to fight it Community Legal Education Ontario - a website that shows the proper procedure for eviction in detail and outlines steps that can be taken to fight it  Nova Scotia Legal Residential Tenancy Law Resources - detailed information about the eviction process in Nova Scotia and how to fight it Centre for Public Legal Education Alberta - resources and information for renters facing eviction in Alberta  BC Housing - information and resources for tenants facing difficulties in British Columbia  Saskatchewan Office of Residential Tenancies - information for tenants facing difficulties in Saskatchewan  Tribunal Administratif du Logement - resources and information for tenants living in Quebec. Available in both English and French. 

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So there’s this art professor at the University of Notre Dame, who happens to also be their live-in priest, that is working on this amazing 4-5 year long project. Every single face on those canvases is an actual person (the B&W ones are deceased) that he has encountered and taken a picture of. One face takes about 2-3 hours to complete. 

Yep, this priest is a friend of my parents . He’s an incredible man . I’ve known him since I was little .

This priest married us in October 2019.

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I've been gone for a few years.

Had to graduate, become a nurse, go to therapy, get married, move out West, go to more therapy, adopt dogs, buy a house, work as a nurse in a pandemic, and execute all the dreams I was building in my head on here as a teenager.

Excited to return to my little written world. I dropped a link to share my new small business. 💕

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roachpatrol

I WOULD PAY TEN TIMES AS MUCH FOR CHOCOLATE IF IT MEANT REDUCING THE AMOUNT OF SLAVES IN THE WORLD? HOW IS THIS ANY KIND OF PROBLEM. 

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kaijutegu

good news, you can! the company’s called Tony’s Chocolonely and their entire purpose is to make slave-free chocolate and reform the chocolate industry.

Whole Foods carries it. If you don’t want to support an Amazon-owned company, World Market carries it. You can also buy it directly from the company. 

It’s the best chocolate I’ve ever had and it’s 100% slave free. Tony’s Chocolonely works really hard to push for transparency within the chocolate industry and actually has and is following an action plan to eliminate slavery within cocoa production. They’re good people who make good chocolate.

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Valentine’s Day.

It's Valentine's Day, and I know it can be pretty rough on single people... especially if you've recently gotten out of a relationship or if you've just been single for awhile.

Remember this: Not every relationship is golden and great and smooth sailing. Not everything you see on social media is real. We all like to post our best and brightest moments on social media. Humans don't like to share our ugliest selves. So some of the photos of couples you've seen today may include photos of people in controlling or even abusive relationships. Some may be couples who aren't supportive of each other. Some may have one who cheated on the other. Some may be currently going through some really hard arguments and tough decisions. Even if it isn't an abusive relationship, maybe some are just not compatible. Shit happens and every couple goes through ups and downs... you really never know. Hold out for a person who actually complements you instead of a person that just feeds you compliments.

TL;DR: It is always better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person.

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weavemama

they judge Malia for dancing at a concert and they judge Sasha for having a summer job, you can never win as a black woman lmao

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