im feeling so sensual and nude

exactly like a crocodile

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URBAN DECAY 2

Gender and pleasure

So much of the Euro-American understanding of being trans (or anything other than 100% constantly identified with your assigned gender) focuses on discomfort. 

Some people take this idea to an extreme and claim you can’t be trans unless you hate your body and want every surgery available to you. As many other writers have said before, that’s not true. It’s perfectly possible to be trans with only mild dysphoria or none at all. It’s perfectly possible to be trans and have a mental map of your body that looks just like the one you already have. 

But I’d like to push even harder against the idea that trans=discomfort. I’d like to offer this: sometimes the exploration of one’s gender can be motivated by pleasure rather than discomfort. 

Let me give an example. Let’s say there’s a person named Cal. Most people think of Cal as a boy, and Cal’s all right with that. So far as Cal’s concerned, a boy isn’t a bad thing to be. But sometimes, Cal likes to imagine being a girl and being treated as a girl. Those fantasies are always accompanied by feelings of pleasure, satisfaction, anticipation, and warmth. Eventually, having had these thoughts for years, Cal asks people to use ‘she’ pronouns in private and to refer to her as a girl. Cal does this for another year before claiming the label “trans”. 

Some people would say a person like Cal can’t be trans because there’s no dysphoria, self-hatred, distress, or even discomfort. There’s just a pleasure-based preference. But why is distress necessary? Why are trans people supposed to be defined solely by our pain and self-hatred?

It’s my opinion that defining trans people solely by discomfort is an aspect of transphobia. The idea behind trans=discomfort is that being anything other than 100% cis is so awful that no one would do it unless the alternative were unlivable. Think about that: defining trans people solely by their experiences of discomfort means believing that being trans is so awful that only misery could drive us to it. And to me, that sounds like the thinking of someone who really hates trans people.

So I’ll come out and say it: sometimes transition or self-exploration of gender is not just about lessening discomfort, but is about improving and deepening the pleasure we take in our lives. 

“Think about that: defining trans people solely by their experiences of discomfort means believing that being trans is so awful that only misery could drive us to it.”

RPGs, or relentlessly persistent girls by cassandrha

This concept is really interesting

Dear friends.

Today is March 31st, 2017. Happy Trans Day of Visibility, to all our people, visible and not. We are honored to be visible to you, for you.

Today is also the third anniversary of the Shapeshifters store launch. We’ve been around for three years. Here’s to many, many more.

And now, in commemoration of and gratitude for one thousand sales, we present: Giveaway 20.

The lucky winner of this extra-special giveaway will receive $80 worth of Shapeshifters binder. This could mean: a Spoonflower print! A binder with a zipper! An extra-long binder with a racerback! The possibilities are endless. Check out the store for your options.

The fine print:

If your SO can't make a decision about where to eat, play the 5-2-1 game. You give them 5 restaurants, they pick two, and you pick from those.

My gf of 3 years is the queen of “wherever” and “I don’t care” when it comes to this. This little game fixed our problem immediately. It takes the pressure off of her, but still gives her a choice about where to eat.

(this can also work with kids and indecisive friends)

How to hack executive dysfunction

you: city of light

me, an intellectual: san junipero

@stormageddonna dad dancing with me on saturday

you fucking dickehead wtf dad dancing? i'm a bad dancer but no way dads dance like that ok

LaFontaine in every episode: Season 3 (Act I)

[The Full Set]

mate, that moment when you’re so close to someone you can laugh with them the way we used laugh with our friends as children, about something absolutely stupid and until we’re not even sure what we are laughing about. it’s amazing being able to see their faces light up with no guards at all, just laughter and silliness

You to small dog: “are you just ashamed to be a cat? Because you resemble a cat to me” -that’s how ridiculous you sound talking about gender btw

You about a small dog: “This is clearly a cat. I cut its ears like a cat’s. I taught it to meow like a cat. I feed it cat food. I give it cat flea formula. Even vets can’t tell the difference! Transcats are cats, don’t invalidate them.”

-that’s how ridiculous you sound talking about gender btw

I get that you’re trying to make a transphobic quip in response to my post, but your analogy doesn’t actually make any sense. If you were trying to mock me, yours should have been about the dog’s self determination in doing these things and you should have started with a cat. SO, to extend my OG analogy: just leave the dog alone, okay? The dog doesn’t wanna debate the fact that it exists with a TERF troll. The dog just wants to eat kibble and nap and live its life. The dog didn’t ask you for anything and doesn’t wanna play withu. It’s just trying to get by bein’ a dog and isn’t bothering you, so don’t come in its house. Don’t poke the dog, don’t taunt the dog, don’t call the dog names, don’t post pictures of the dog on the internet. Just go for a walk or something, leave that dog alone. Stop going out of your way to find vulnerable puppies on the internet to kick, it’s not nice.

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