my heart is so heavy
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“Once in a while we meet a gentle person. Gentleness is a virtue hard to find in a society that admires toughness and roughness. We are encouraged to get things done and to get them done fast, even when people get hurt in the process. Success, accomplishment, and productivity count. But the cost is high. There is no place for gentleness in such a milieu. Gentle is the one who does ‘not break the crushed reed, or snuff the faltering wick.’ Gentle is the one who is attentive to the strengths and weaknesses of the other and enjoys being together more than accomplishing something. A gentle person treads lightly, listens carefully, looks tenderly, and touches with reverence. A gentle person knows that true growth requires nurture, not force. Let’s dress ourselves with gentleness. In our tough and often unbending world our gentleness can be a vivid reminder of the presence of God among us.”
— Henri Nouwen
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Look at how stunning this handmade Aquarius journal is!
Source: amazon.com
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my dude bouta put y’all in the shrimp heaven that you keep demanding
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Whew child, the conservation of capitalism
Even tho minimum wage ought to be at $20 an hour tho
At least!!!!!!!!!!
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I, too, know the begging ledge on the high bluff of my heart whispering for me to leave the simple pain of having a body at all.
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Tejedoras
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People who are pansexual are:
- attracted to persons regardless of their gender
- and/or attracted to all genders
- people with a really pretty PRIDE flag
we are not:
- special bisexual snowflakes
- calling bi people transphobic
- confused
secretladyspider
Also bisexuality is an awesome and valid identity and you can pry my bi/pan solidarity from my cold dead hands
nightwinggirl42
People who are bisexual are:
- Attracted to two or more genders
- Can be attracted to all genders but prefers to use bisexual as a term/label
- People with a really cool pride flag
We are NOT:
- Transphobic
- Disregarding of nonbinary genders
- Confused
Shout-out to my pan siblings btw! Y'all are great! Anyone who disagrees can pry bi/pan solidarity from my cold, dead fingers
secretladyspider
Woo! Yes!
jack-dodd
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“Obviously ‘bihet’ offends a lot of bisexuals, so we need to come up with a better term for bisexuals in m/f relationships.”
How about… and hear me out… this may sound crazy…. but you… continue to call us bisexual… because (and I realize this gets confusing for you people so read this next part slowly) it turns out we continue to be bisexual regardless of who we’re dating.
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Okay, this shit gets me all heated up. I’m just a cisgay dude up in here, but I have Some Opinions about this nonsense.
Bisexual people in relationships with folks of the other gender are not only themselves still bisexual (I’m really ashamed of a bunch of all that this shit even needs to be said, like c’mon), but their relationships are queer.
Yes, I just said that straight people can be involved in queer relationships without they themselves being queer.
The reason for this is simple: folks who are in relationships with queer people will always have to deal with their partner’s marginalization impacting their relationship. Always. Even if their bisexual partner chooses to be entirely stealth about their queerness (and that’s their right, by gods, fight me about it), their relationship is still impacted by that very choice existing. It’s a facet heterosexual relationships never have to negotiate.
Frankly, bisexual folks have to deal with active marginalization from multiple angles: heterocentrist and homocentrist. And in case I actually have to say this aloud? We should not be fucking marginalizing our own, y’all. That makes you a bad person, and you should feel bad.
To sum up: Bisexual folks are queer as hell. Straight folks can be in queer relationships without themselves ever being queer. And FFS please stop harassing bi- and pan-folks already, man. It’s 2018. Find hobbies that are not shitty.
I love this addition to my post so much thank you.
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is being into coffee an older sibling thing bc everyone i know who loves coffee is the oldest child
angelpassing
like every oldest child ik loves coffee, the middle child hates it/prefers tea, and the youngest will drink it but only if its super sweet n has a ton of milk
angelpassing
rb w/ if ur oldest, middle, or youngest child and how u feel about coffee
Lol, reversed in my fam. I like it with lots of milk (oldest)& the youngest drinks it like water. Middle hates it, prefers tea
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“Experts who study the art and science of diagnosis say the problem goes beyond this one rare disease. They say that in general, when presented with a puzzling disease, physicians too often leap to a diagnosis of a psychiatric problem.”
“The doctor said the paralysis was an emotional reaction to her sister’s birth four months earlier. He diagnosed Bailey with a mental condition called conversion disorder.”
Hello darkness my old friend, I’ve heard that term time and time again.
It’s a real disorder, but for far too many physicians it’s the “hysteria” equivalent of today. Which means not only are they misdiagnosing physical conditions as psychiatric ones, but also that they don’t understand conversion disorder either, and use it to explain things they don’t understand and belittle the patients as “crazy”. Because lets face it, that’s what they mean.
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rest in peace everyone
I’m in chicago rn, and my college seems to be refusing to close campuses- send help
Anyone that isn’t used to those temperatures please do whatever research you can on how to stay warm.
Here are a few pointers to start you off.
- Wear layers. The more layers the better. Pockets of air get trapped between each layer and act like insulation for you so your stay much warmer than with a single heavier layer.
- If you’re sweating remove some layers. Sweat can kill you. The last thing you want is your body producing liquid that can then freeze on your skin.
- Get candles. As many as you can. If the worst case happens and you lose power a candle in a small space can keep you warm and alive for far longer than you would expect.
- If you’re really concerned about losing power and don’t have anywhere to go for shelter, build your own. If you’ve got snow make a quinzee. It’s like a ghetto version of an igloo. You can find some instructions here. If you’ve got a way to pile snow quickly that’s even better. Believe me, a quinzee with a candle will keep you warmer than being in your house. Especially if you build a wind break wall. DO NOT forget to make sure there is adequate ventilation.
- If you don’t have power sleep naked. At the most you can wear a pair of socks and a toque (knitted cap), anything more can cause you to sweat. Keep the clothes you are planning to change into in the sleeping bag/blankets with you so they’re already warm from your body heat when you go to put them on.
- Do as little as humanly possible. Avoid being outdoors if you can and if you can’t protect yourself from the wind. Cover every inch of skin you can manage to cover.
- If you have hypothermia warm yourself slowly!! Do not jump into a tub of hot water or you’ll likely burn yourself. You can’t tell how hot something is at that point. Same if you have frost bite.
- If someone you love has hypothermia DO NOT share your body heat with them unless you can easily get warm again. I know it’s sexy in fanfics but in real life it can lead to you both becoming hypothermic and dying. You can use your body heat to warm some blankets and exchange them for the cooling ones they’re using until they can produce enough heat on their own to make their own pocket of warm air but be very careful that you don’t let your own temperature drop too much. Shivering is bad but not shivering anymore when it’s still cold is much worse.
- If your hands are cold the best place to warm them against your body is under your armpits or, even better, your groin.
- Snow makes an excellent insulator. If your car breaks down somewhere and you don’t know when you’ll be able to get help then cover your car in as much snow as you can manage (make sure you also make it obvious someone in the area needs help.) Even burying yourself in the snow is better than staying exposed to the air.
- If your water shuts off don’t just melt snow to drink, boil it first. Snow, in general, is pretty safe but there is still a chance it can make you sick and you can’t risk that in a survival situation.
- DO NOT START A FIRE IN YOUR HOME. Unless you have a fireplace with proper ventilation just don’t do it.
These have been tips from an ex-military Canadian who grew up where -40 was a normal winter experience and, yes, even did a cadet winter survival exercise when it was that cold out.
Also if you have a dog look into ways to keep them safe. I would personally use hurricane tips bc it’s what I’m more familiar with. For example buy a kiddie pool or similar and put some grass or something so your pup doesn’t have to go out (and you don’t have to go out with your dog)
In Chicago, Lyft is offering free rides to warming centers using the code CHIJAYDEN19, up to $25 per ride, through Friday
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goodbye
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Relatable
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🤔
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men’s loyalty to violence is disturbing. when women want a life free of abuse, assault, threat, & coercion, men’s first suggestion is “learn to fight back. learn to defend yourself”. i don’t want my life to be a fight. i don’t want to “prove myself” through inflicting pain & fear. i don’t find violence and physical conflict fulfilling or self-actualising. they’re exhausting & dehumanizing
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Tea only