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(=ヮ=)೨ Hello! The name's Cat. Hetalia and other trash here.
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There’s a reason lots of good parents say to babies stuff like

“You’re excited to go to the park!”

“Oh, it makes you mad that we can’t go outside.”

And then when the babies get a little bit older the parents can say

“You seem upset. Are you sad?”

“Are you excited that gramma is coming over today?”

Which lets the kid (who is learning to utilize speech) respond with yes or no, which may prompt more questions, like

“So you aren’t sad, are you angry?”

“Yes, does it make you happy when gramma is here?”

And then, finally, when the child is learning to use language in a more complex way, the parents can say,

How does it make you feel?”

Why are you feeling like that?”

And it’s all about teaching emotional awareness. I really reccomend using the process on yourself. Learn to ask, “am I happy?” “Am I sad?” “Am I anxious?”

Then practice identifying, out loud or on paper if you can, “I’m happy.” “I’m upset.” “I’m sad.” “I’m anxious.”

Final step: “Why am I feeling anxious? I’m still thinking about that awkward conversation earlier.” “Why am I happy? It’s such a beautiful day outside.” “Why am I sad? None of my friends are responding to my messages.”

It really helps you notice patterns (“I’m more likely to be happy when I’m around this person.” “When I haven’t eaten, I often feel angry.” “If I don’t plan ahead, I get anxious.”) which is the first step in avoiding things and people that are bad for you and encouraging things and people that are good.

Basically don’t forget that you’re just a baby who got more complicated.

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lovelydeck

Not sure how to articulate what you are feeling? Try starting at the middle and working your way out to the more specific feelings!

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the problem with discord d&d

one person, for the fifth time: my parents are dead

everyone else, also for the fifth time: you cut out a little there what was that?

PSA for literally everyone, I am SO tired of explaining this extremely simple fix to people

PSA PSA for those who might not be able to read what this tiny ass screenshot says + without the unnecessary passive-aggressiveness:

  1. Go to Voice & Video settings.
  2. Turn off Automatically Determine Audio Sensitivity.
  3. Move the slider over to the left to suit your sensitivity (avoid pushing it all the way to the left to cushion possible background noise).
  4. This should prevent you from cutting out so long as said issues aren’t because of Microphone or Connection issues. Great fix for those with quiet voices or garbage microphones.

Here’s a screenshot of that for our visual learners. It’s a mobile screenshot, but desktop Discord looks exactly the same, just wider.

How hard was it to just explain that nicely?

AHH I’VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS POST FOR MONTHS AND HAVE BEEN WISHING SOMEONE COULD BRING IT BACK THANK YOU SO MUCH

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I think there are people that help you become the person that you end up being, and you can be grateful for them even if they were never meant to be in your life forever. I’m glad I knew you, too.

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