i am better with you, watson

i feel like there are a lot of half-truths and straight up lies we have to stop telling kids about biomedical transition, some of which are mythology derived more from the medical and mental health institutions than trans people themselves but all of which are circulated within gay and trans communities, among them:

- that they’ll be the person they were before

- that physicians, psychiatrists, and therapists know better than they do, and that trauma and desire to transition have to be completely separate for transition to be a valid option

- that transition has any kind of endpoint

- that it’s guaranteed to change their mental health for the better in an uncomplicated way

- that it will cure dysphoria, that their dysphoria is guaranteed to improve in every way or even stay the same, and that persistence or even worsening dysphoria always means biomedical transition was the wrong choice

- that hormone replacement and gender-confirming surgeries are supposed to be uncomplicated emotional experiences

- that they aren’t allowed to have second thoughts and that second thoughts always mean biomedical transition was the wrong choice (i’m over two years in, i’ve had some surgery, and i still have moments where i think ‘what the hell am i doing’ even though i know it’s saved my life)

- that any kind of transition, public or internal, biomedical or otherwise, is a linear process with a specific blueprint they have to follow, and

- that biomedical transition has to be the highlight of their lives or otherwise a life-or-death decision, and that their decisions about what to do with their bodies have moral consequences.

there are definitely a lot of others, but i feel like hearing some of this much earlier in my life would have spared me a lot of internal conflict, agony, and lost time

This Australian fire station’s message for Women’s Day is only the latest example of them being the best.

when u used to be an overachiever but now ur barely running on enough energy to function and u dont know how to cope

tbh i could care less about shitty plot lines. i come for the characters and i stay for the characters. you could give me the shittiest plot in the whole world but if the characters are real and i connect with them then i’ll defend the whole shitty shebang until my dying breath. watch me.

concept: 2017 is better. you are cuddling with someone. you are warm. you are loved. you are surrounded by people you care about. you learn to love yourself. you are calm. you find new hobbies. you find yourself.

Every time I recommend Discworld to someone, I get asked “where should I start?” There are several reading order guides floating around the internet, but they just give the order of each series, they don’t give you any information on which to base a choice of starter novel. For that, use this handy (and very biased, okay, I admit it) flow chart! 

For everyone one who has been asking ME where to start (I’m sorry I don’t reply to you all I get asked this so often) this is an exceedingly good chart.

i don’t know where this glitter came from

Please know, I value you for more than just the many benefits you’ve brought into my life. I value you as a person.

Ease your soul here

Sherlock Holmes + text posts, pt. 2 (This one isn’t very funny, I’m sorry.)

I know ive discussed it before but. blind sex positivity is counter productive. telling girls to have sex can be equally as harmful as telling girls to be ashamed of sex. especially 20+ year old women talking about “sex positivity” to 15, 16 year old girls. even if you mean well, it can be harmful

this sounds anti-feminist so let me rephrase. the normalization of female sexuality is so so so important and a huge step in the right direction when done correctly. in a perfect world nobody would be ashamed of their sexual history or their sex lives. but that’s not how it is, and when i was fourteen or fifteen, even sixteen, i was force fed this idea that sex was empowering, and it got me into sexual situations that were consensual but still traumatizing because i was too young and too unprepared to handle them. i am ashamed of it. i live with that shame still. sex positivity is important. it is vital. but putting “be a slut, do what you want” over pastel backgrounds and encouraging girls to be a Ho or whatever isn’t doing shit. we need to teach girls how to know when they’re ready and have knowledge of how to handle situations. we need to give girls a safe way to own their sexuality. we need to teach and guide girls to make safe and educated decisions about sex. we need to teach girls that while there is nothing wrong with having sex, there are repercussions. we need to fucking protect girls

Tea Tardis art 

“Soppy” - Illustrtation by Philippa Rice