The decision in having or not having children is a sensitive topic for me as I am very likely unable to physically have them. If you want to get a vasectomy that is your right to do so but please do your research and consider your reasoning behind it. I would advise that if you absolutely want to go this route to consult a urologist.

If I need to travel, I’ll pay in cash or drive myself thank you kindly. I’m not going to hitchhike across country.

Things are okay I guess? Lately, I’ve been working at home due to illness and it’s both fine but it does suck. I miss my co-workers and I have no idea when I’ll be allowed back. My office is taking all of this very seriously, and I am too.

I hate all the hysteria, panic-shopping, and misinformation people are spreading. I do though believe that right now the social-distancing and being responsibly cautious is the right call. If anything, my more annoyed that we’re at the point that so many things have to be shut down for now until we can weather through this outbreak.

As for me personally? I’m getting back working out at the gym again and I am waiting on pins and needles about getting this new job! I can’t say much about it other than the background check has taken for-freakin-ever! Once it’s done, I can’t wait to do my onboarding. Until then, I’ll keep my spirits up and enjoy this extra time I have with my cat.

I sure have! I’ve been following Vivziepop for a while before and I am so happy to see her and her team were able to put together these shorts so far. I really hope it can flourish into something even bigger.

I would say you two need to sit down and have a real heart-to-heart about this.

Healthy relationships require an exchange of trust and respect and you are not wrong for feeling upset over this situation. In fact, It’s completely understandable that you’re uncomfortable about her wanting to open up and see more people. Now, to be fair to you I won’t begin to pretend to know why you are uncomfortable about it but, does she know why? I mean, it may seem like it should be an inherent thing to understand to you, but everybody is a little different and may have different ideas of what is allowable in relationships. What I can say with certainty, you clearly care about maintaining this relationship given that her bringing this idea up to you hadn’t torn you two apart.

As for the heart-to-heart, don’t spring it on her as a surprise. You don’t want her to think you are cornering her and this is outside her ability to choose for herself. Let her know you want to discuss this like adults and in private. Offer to let her schedule when and where, as a sign of respect. Relationships are after all about trust, and you need to let her know that the idea of her seeing other people hurts you emotionally and your sense of trust in this relationship. You should also let her, in her own words, explain why she feels this need to see other people. Don’t interject and assume anything but do make it plain to her, that you are going to be 100% honest and you will take her at her word in return.

What you do with this information afterward, assuming she does take your invitation seriously is up to the two of you. I hope in the end you both have a better understanding of each other, what you both want out of this relationship, and some kind of resolution. I can’t guarantee this will be a one-and-done solution. It might take several nights to do this and several conversations. It might even take relationship counseling but it’ll take both of you willing to move through this together. It takes two to tango after all.

And I appreciate being here once more. I hope to see a lot more asks and friendly faces (even anonymous ones).