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finding out this was real makes my life lkJASLKFJASDKLF

david tennants so funny to me cuz  hes like. a very private and quiet person. and all characters they call him to do are like mr slutty mcthot

David Tennant can do three things, be a detective, a serial killer, or wear very tight pants

i always think the venn diagram is Slut, Sad Dad, and Serial Killer.

Change my mind

it’s been a while, they’ve been hanging out a lot, and they’re ready to hit the town  😎

part 1

Pride & Prejudice (2005) dir. Joe Wright

god, grant me the confidence and audacity of alexis rose

my followers who have been here since i made this blog in 2012 watching me make zero impact over the course of 8 years:

eldest daughters make some noise

How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?

Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?

If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?

I know this one! Or, at least, I know a way to do it, because I’ve done it.

1) When you call them up (or email them, which I prefer, because PHONE, EW), you ask if they’re taking new patients.

2) If they say yes, say something along the lines of “Great! I’m looking for a new therapist. Would it be possible for me to schedule an appointment so we can see whether we’d be a good fit for one another?”

3) Assuming everything is a go, head over to the appointment. Bring your notebook, pen, and questions. Also, if possible, have a very brief rundown prepared of what you’d like to accomplish with your therapy (or even what you think your biggest issues are).

4) Introduce yourself. Reiterate that you want to see if the two of you would be a good fit, so [a nice little social laugh or smile here, while holding up your notebook] you brought questions.

5) Give the rundown of what you want, what your issues are, whatever. See how they react.

6) Ask your questions — about their therapeutic approach, why they entered the field, whether they feel comfortable working with *your* needs (I, for instance, specifically told my awesome therapist that I needed her to tell me absolutely nothing about her personal life or experiences — as much as possible, I needed a blank wall to bounce things off of. It’s been years now, and I THINK she’s seen at least a couple of episodes of Doctor Who. I THINK. That’s all I’ve got. It’s amazing).

7) By this point, you’ve probably hit the 45 minute mark, and you’ll know if you want to see this person again.

Regarding current therapists: If they’re toxic, get rid of ‘em before you even start interviewing others. Nobody needs that kind of garbage. Otherwise, you could keep seeing them while you interview others, and then the second you find one you like (and you schedule your next appointment), get rid of your current one. You don’t have to say why — just say that you’d like to cancel future appointments. Do it over email, if you want. If you like them, you can tell them that you just need something different now, but that you “really appreciate all the work we’ve done together” or something. If you don’t like them, just cancel. They don’t need to know jack.

So that’s my philosophy/style with regard to therapist shopping — I may be completely wrong, but it’s worked for me so far. Good luck!

This is really good advice

Yes, very good advice!

I needed this!! I recently moved and need to find a new therapist AND psych in my area. I was also super uncomfortable with my therapist, who literally said these words out loud from her mouth: “How do you know you’re pansexual if you’ve never had sex?”

nope bye

This is the advice I used when therapist shopping for my current therapist! I didn’t bring the notebook of questions cause there were a just a couple key things that I really wanted to make sure that were okay, but this gave me a good idea of what to look out for not related to the very specific stuff I was going to therapy for. But this guide is awesome.

I’ve never been so unafraid to see a therapist before I read this… I might give it a try.

From experience: see if the therapist will do a phone screening and answer a few uestions about their style before even meeting with them. Some therapist will charge you or charge insurance if you do the first meet up in person. A phone call keeps it informal and let’s you know if you want to commit to a longer time period for an “in person” appointment.

If you have a therapist that you currently like and need to switch due to moving or any other reason, see if they will help you in your new search. My therapist from college helped me find profiles online and we came up with questions together of what would work best for me. It made the transition a million times easier.