main charagh wo bhi bujha hua,meri raat kaise chamak gayi..
All About Love, bell hooks | Snow and Dirty Rain, Richard Siken
jhalllo reblogged
you know one way you cause and increase your emotional suffering?
by assuming that something someone says or does, or doesn't say or do, is directly related to YOU.
that friend who didn't ask after you when you were down is on her, not you. that relative who only gets in touch when they need something from you is on them, not you.
if someone is good to you, that's their upbringing, their values, their akhlaq shining through. again, it has nothing to do with you.
if someone is neglectful, rude, or mean - that's on them.
often you'll find yourself overthinking and obsessing over other people's behavior and words, thinking you must have done something to CAUSE them. but you didn't.
how you choose to respond, how YOU behave and the words YOU say are on you. stay focused on what's within your control for a clear conscience, a light heart, and a peaceful mind.
jhalllo reblogged
Ek roz koi aayega saari fursatein le kar,
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Ek roz hum kahenge, zaroorat nahi rahi
Thursday, January 13, 2022
9.15 am Bangalore, India
“Life advice: Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked, and don’t ask for anything in return. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks, and really listen too, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people that you love them and that you appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day. One thing you should never do? Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great, your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on this earth, don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light, and they will come.”
— Unknown
10 Ways to Simplify Life
1. Don’t try to read other peoples’ minds and don’t expect others to be able to read yours. Communicate if it is important to you.
2. Don’t expect to be friends with everyone. We all are different – and we all like different things. Instead, invest your time in a few good friends. That’s all you really need to feel happy and fulfilled.
3. Create a budget and live within your means. Accruing debt will only cause you to feel stressed.
4. Get rid of the monster of jealousy – and only compare yourself with yourself.
5. Organize your clutter and get rid of some stuff. It will leave you feeling calmer, and will save you lots of time.
6. Stay on the sidelines and don’t get drawn into pointless dramas in other peoples’ lives.
7. Finish what you’ve started - and then do something else.
8. Treat every person you meet with respect, and err on the side of being patient and kind.
9. Accept there are things that you can’t change or control – and focus on those things that you can change or control.
10. Don’t be too proud to apologise. Admit that you were wrong, then say you’re sorry, and move on.
jhalllo reblogged
Normalize disliking people and avoiding them without starting a conflict and insisting that they're bad people. You don't actually need to be able to call someone toxic and abusive in order to justify that you're not vibing with them.
naseer ashk toh palkon pe sabne dekh liye,
guzar rahi hai jo dil par wo koyi kya jaane.
not quite dead, not quite alive.
Not a single day in Pakistan where headlines about men doesnt make you sick to the stomach.
Kehne ko bohot kuch ho, phir bhi khamosh rehna bhi ek aziyat hay.
kahin tou jaake rukega safina e gham dil..
Jub zard ho mausam andar ka, kya phool khilayein chehre par..
Dil ke bojh ko doona kar gaya, jo gham khwar mila..
jhalllo reblogged
There’s nothing in this world that can cure your heart as much as prayer can. Stop trying to heal through people. I’m telling you, it will not work and even if it does, it’s just temporary healing. If a person’s word can temporarily heal you, imagine what Allah’s words can do to you. Prayer is medicine for the broken soul and it’s the only way you will fully heal.