I want to do the right thing in Islam and get engaged, But my family is against it because he is a convert. I dont know what to do
Look. I’m telling you, choose your battles.
It’s not about him being a convert. It could be anything. Fighting your parents over going to some event isn’t worth it.
People you want to get married to? I’m 50/50 on it. Most of the time, young Muslims make stupid decisions. Not because he’s a convert, but because you’re not ready. He’s not ready. You guys are idealizing things.
Then you’re going to be like: “NOT ME!! I”M DIFFERENTTT!”
Sure you are.
No matter what the reason, your parents don’t like your selection for (X, Y, Z) you need to think about things practically. Which most people don’t. You down to help them when they are the only person who is not from your culture? You ready for that? You ready for baby names? You ready with positions? Money? Where you’ll live? What are your goals, education, and career wise?
I’m going to bet you’re not. Even if this guy was the same culture, blah blah blah, young Muslims just want to play house and get some affection.
I don’t know your parents, I’m just telling you think about things before you fight with your parents. That’s all. Obviously converts get treated like garbage, and that sucks, and while my family is chill (two in-laws are converts) so I don’t get the whole thing about family blah blah, but I’m just going to underline, think about what you’re doing and don’t look for guidance from someone who is getting a 20 word question from you, I can’t help you that much from here, other than to tell you to think about it.
A girl asked Imam Suhaib Webb the same question as you. (Isn’t it funny how he’s still called a “convert” even though he’s been Muslim longer than people have been alive who talk to him? ANYWAYZ)
He said: “you only have one mom, there are plenty of fish in the sea.” The girl asked the question because she knew that Imam Suhaib converted to Islam, trying to get the answer she wanted.
Family members will object to people for lots of reasons. Objecting to converts is particularly heinous and insensitive, but that doesn’t make the underlying issues you have to deal with, and let’s say you’re Egyptian and he is too, if you don’t consider these issues, it doesn’t matter if they’re a convert or not, you have to think about the practical and you haven’t.
You’re going to say you have. Trust me, you haven’t.
Choose your battles.