A Queen About to Destroy Royalty

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partytilfajr
Anonymous asked:

I want to do the right thing in Islam and get engaged, But my family is against it because he is a convert. I dont know what to do

Look. I’m telling you, choose your battles.

It’s not about him being a convert. It could be anything. Fighting your parents over going to some event isn’t worth it.

People you want to get married to? I’m 50/50 on it. Most of the time, young Muslims make stupid decisions. Not because he’s a convert, but because you’re not ready. He’s not ready. You guys are idealizing things.

Then you’re going to be like: “NOT ME!! I”M DIFFERENTTT!”

Sure you are.

No matter what the reason, your parents don’t like your selection for (X, Y, Z) you need to think about things practically. Which most people don’t. You down to help them when they are the only person who is not from your culture? You ready for that? You ready for baby names? You ready with positions? Money? Where you’ll live? What are your goals, education, and career wise?

I’m going to bet you’re not. Even if this guy was the same culture, blah blah blah, young Muslims just want to play house and get some affection.

I don’t know your parents, I’m just telling you think about things before you fight with your parents. That’s all. Obviously converts get treated like garbage, and that sucks, and while my family is chill (two in-laws are converts) so I don’t get the whole thing about family blah blah, but I’m just going to underline, think about what you’re doing and don’t look for guidance from someone who is getting a 20 word question from you, I can’t help you that much from here, other than to tell you to think about it.

A girl asked Imam Suhaib Webb the same question as you. (Isn’t it funny how he’s still called a “convert” even though he’s been Muslim longer than people have been alive who talk to him? ANYWAYZ)

He said: “you only have one mom, there are plenty of fish in the sea.” The girl asked the question because she knew that Imam Suhaib converted to Islam, trying to get the answer she wanted.

Family members will object to people for lots of reasons. Objecting to converts is particularly heinous and insensitive, but that doesn’t make the underlying issues you have to deal with, and let’s say you’re Egyptian and he is too, if you don’t consider these issues, it doesn’t matter if they’re a convert or not, you have to think about the practical and you haven’t.

You’re going to say you have. Trust me, you haven’t.

Choose your battles.

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flavoracle

I rarely criticize my wife, but when I do, it’s spoken directly to her, in private, and with love.

I don’t speak negatively about my wife to other people. Not because she’s perfect (which is an impossible and unfair standard) but because she deserves a husband she can trust. To say anything about my wife that I wouldn’t say to her face, would be a betrayal of that trust.

I never want her to spend a single moment worrying about the way I talk about her when she’s not around.

A little louder

I RARELY CRITICIZE MY WIFE, BUT WHEN I DO, IT’S SPOKEN DIRECTLY TO HER, IN PRIVATE, AND WITH LOVE. 

I DON’T SPEAK NEGATIVELY ABOUT MY WIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE. NOT BECAUSE SHE’S PERFECT (WHICH IS AN IMPOSSIBLE AND UNFAIR STANDARD) BUT BECAUSE SHE DESERVES A HUSBAND SHE CAN TRUST. TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MY WIFE THAT I WOULDN’T SAY TO HER FACE, WOULD BE A BETRAYAL OF THAT TRUST. 

I NEVER WANT HER TO SPEND A SINGLE MOMENT WORRYING ABOUT THE WAY I TALK ABOUT HER WHEN SHE’S NOT AROUND. 

(is that loud enough?) 

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Because I’ve realised that absolutely nobody is looking out for your happiness apart from you. Nobody else will wholeheartedly support you no matter what. They all have an agenda. Even the ones you love. Be careful of it.

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puffsaddy

this how you look when you’re mad at your girl and she say “baby” in that little voice and you gotta respond now because you her baby.

i’m fucking crying

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jessehimself

actions speak

Never forget how they treated us

Hurricane Katrina if anyone was wondering

NEW ORLEANS PLEASE NEVER FORGET THEY LEFT THE PEOPLE OF MY CITY TO DIE!

why….. why do they have guns in response to a natural disaster?

Merica

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blerdette

They killed my mama’s friend on the danziger bridge

Always reblog

And ppl still suffering PTSD 10 years later

I’m at work trying so hard not to cry

I remember my English teacher talked to us about this one day in class and she was sobbing so hard she had to leave

I hated this.

the plea agreements drew prison terms from three to 12 years (x)

But all lives matter right?

Heartbreaking

ml8807

Right, all lives matter my ass.

I still have ptsd from this ,and I was 8 when this happened. It still feels like yesterday that this happened. My heart breaks everytime I see my city im pieces.

darkmcsexy

I remember riding down the highway from the storm in traffic with water covering half the tires a terrified 7 year old 😓

BLACK LIVES MATTER

Never Forgive, Never Forget.

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nkjemisin

New Orleans is the city of my heart – the only home I love as much as New York. People ask me, sometimes, why in my writing I depict post-Katrina NOLA as missing some fundamental part of itself. That’s because these photos were only the beginning. Not only did they NOT help while people were suffering, and vilify the survivors for… surviving, but after the waters receded these motherfuckers used Katrina as an opportunity to rid the city of many of its poor black residents – the very people who made New Orleans the hustling, creative, delicious, powerful place it was. Oh, some made it back… but not enough. I pray NOLA will get its soul back, someday. But more than that, I pray that one day there will be a reckoning.

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Beautiful #Ramadan tradition in the old city of #jerusalem. The callers who go from house to house in the early hours of the morning waking up each family by name for Qiyam and s7oor. They do so in a poetic form. Imagine being woken up daily in this beautiful way. This tradition has continued from generation to generation. Bless them #palestine

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lotuxswave

you know that feeling you get when you’ve just showered and you crawl into a soft bed with clean sheets and you just feel safe and calm? that’s how I want my heart to feel

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if u ever think a boy in class is cute just look @ him outside of class i promise you the only reason you think he’s cute is bc you have limited selection in class and your standards are momentarily lowered

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