Ugh, I don't want to listen to The Kreed of the Kromon again
- The head of a statue of Lenin just chillin in a parking lot
Embarrassing for you if you love Ace and hate Mel, and shit on Mel as part of your hyping up of Ace. They're girlfriends 💖
There’s a particular attitude I often see on the internet that goes something like “If you aren’t part of a particular marginalized group, then you could never understand their experience, so don’t pretend to relate.” And while obviously you’re never going to relate to every aspect of that identity unless you are also of that identity, I feel like this attitude really diminishes opportunities for finding kinship and bonding in similar experiences even if those experiences aren’t exactly the same and/or are the result of different identities.
For example, I’m white and neurodivergent, and I was talking to a Black neurotypical friend about masking, and how I feel like I have to change the entire way I present myself in order to not be considered weird in public. She responded with “Oh, some of that sounds kind of like code-switching— how I have to switch away from using AAVE in white-dominated settings in order to be accepted.” And then we bonded over how frustrating and ridiculous it is that AAVE and stimming are both considered unacceptable in “professional” settings.
Another time, a straight Jewish friend was telling me about a book she had just finished reading, which was written by a Jewish author and had a Jewish main character. She was saying that it was really nice to read a book written by a Jewish author, because even when gentile authors do their research and write a pretty accurate Jewish character, they never quite feel Jewish— you can always tell the author was a gentile. And I said “Oh that sounds kind of like when I read queer characters written by straight authors— you can always tell the author was straight even if they do their research and get things fairly right. So even though I’m happy when any book features queer characters, it’s really especially nice to read queer characters written by queer authors.” And we bonded over this similar experience, and we were both excited that the other understood even if we were coming to this experience from different angles, and then we swapped book recommendations. This conversation is also a great example of when that internet attitude DOES apply— when someone outside of a particular group is trying to understand that group’s entire experience well enough to accurately write the world as seen through their eyes. They’re never quite going to get it right, and that’s ok! It just means it’s important to also have Own Voices authors writing those types of stories also.
Sometimes it seems like people who have been in internet circles exhibiting this attitude for too long are afraid to ever try to relate to the experiences of anyone in any groups other than their own for fear of causing offense, which is honestly pretty counterproductive. Understanding each other and bonding across groups should be the goal! Relating to each other is not a bad thing!
everyone more pretentious than me is an insufferable poseur and everyone less pretentious than me is a clueless philistine
romantic and sexual partner.
weirdest side effect of the pandemic is how many people i know who get sick and say 'but my covid tests are negative so i should be fine' like you know other illnesses. exist. right.
Rose is so excited to be in the past and nine enjoys showing off so much. A perfect match. Love it. Love how quickly Rose makes friends with people too. Of the first three, I think this one's been my favourite actually.
12/Clara photoshoots aesthetic, it’s what I thrive for
I realize that's what's missing from "queer" gear these days.
The absolute pride in being a God damned freak. In being something society saw as wrong.
It's all uwu you're valid and society should accept you
Like no fuck your society. Your society is bullshit and relies on oppression to create its "norms". I don't want societal norms expanded to include me. I want to blow those structures the fuck up
yeah like when people say “normalise” about everything and I’m like, I don’t care how normal it is, I just want people to stop being punished for being weird. We can either attempt to normalise everything one by one, or we can do the whole thing in one fell swoop of “so what if it is weird? Nothing wrong with a bit of weird”
my 2022 highlight was when a guy was driving me home after a date and his phone was playing songs on youtube thru the aux on autoplay BUT he was also using it as a satnav so we had to just cope with whatever song came on. anyway we listened to the isolated vocals for "eye of the tiger" in silence because neither of us acknowledged it and it got to a certain point where it would be even weirder if one of us did say something
/edit: I realise a text post doesn't even do it justice, it went exactly like this
if you're curious there was no second date and I'm pretty sure it's 46% because of this
Watching both Classic and New Who this year has really made me realise how old I am. Back when I watched all this for the first, the Classic/New series distinction was the most obvious thing in the world to me, but these days I feel like Nine's episodes are closer to Eight or Seven than to the the present 🥲
They've aged well though! I still really enjoy Nine and Rose together in particular. The End of the World suffers from the same problem as Rose though: it has to introduce all kinds of themes and concepts to the audience, and it is really, really good at that, but the actual plot is a bit thin. The episode was fun, and emotional, and I was really immersed in it but then the "the Doctor has to turn the 'death' switch to 'off' but it's on the other side of these murder propellers" bit ruined that for me.
Every Doctor Who Companion
↪ Romana I
I would like to wish everyone an uneventful new year
May we live in very uninteresting times
may you experience very precedented events
New Who Rewatch Progress Report:
I still haven't watched The End of the World, but @just-ju and I are currently watching The Key to Time.
Somewhat disappointing amounts of progress, sure, but I'm happy to have returned to the more chaotic aspects of this universe so quickly