Am I getting a good grade in tumblr mutual?

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Mutually exclusive? Yes?

If you are watching a TV show, it can be live action or animated.

But not when you're reading a book. Much to think about.

Wait.

Wait wait.

Anyone else do that thing where you’re reading and you disappear into the world so hard that you realize…. I don’t know what I just read… and if what I was imagining was what I was reading on the page. The words, the book, the place I’m at… it all disappeared. This I why I can’t walk and read at the same time. Unless I’m indoors and knowing there’s going to be nothing I will get hit with like a car or bicycle. I will lose myself so deep into a story there is no climbing out. Unless I have the realization that I am lost in my imagination and no longer absorbing the words in the page. Sometimes I don’t and I’m gone.

Today I rewatch Chris as Ari

He gave us an amazing show 🥵🥵

It was the weirdest movie because you’re watching a very intense subject matter and you’re rooting for them to get the refugees to safety, but then the other half of the movie you’re just drooling over Chris Evans as Ari Levinson and you forget about everything except hrng! Until it gets suddenly intense again and back and forth between intense and hrng until at last the whole movie ends with the refugees getting to safety. And you’re sitting at the end like “can I just get another two hours of Ari Levinson please?” Nothing else, just him. And you realize this is how most men leave you high and dry because if the movie had only stayed with it a little longer you’d have finished.

….or was that just my experience?

Who the fuck wrote this ask? Slide into my fucking DMs, I just want to berate you. How fucking dare you insult someone who is taking time out of their day to write stories that people enjoy and want? It’s a hobby and she is wonderful for writing for us all.

Sounds like the best part of you slid down your mother’s leg.

Get fucked with something prickly, asshat.

Thank you so much for your wonderful support, for real:"💜💜💜 Your presence means the world to me and I couldn't be happier sharing my writing with and being surrounded by people like you💜💜💜💜💜

Please know that I love and appreciate you so so much💜💜

Who the fuck says that? Who died and made this anonymous jackass the arbiter of fic writing. I’ll give you a hint, no one. Because that was some immature shit to say and I bet you if this fanfic writing business was an actual company I’d senior level and outrank this twit by like ten rungs up the ladder.

No. 1, writing is a solitary exercise. Unless you’re writing with a partner. That’s why writing is so painful, you’re not in competition with anyone else but yourself. There’s no benchmark for getting better other than writing and reading more. And the number of people that enjoy it. No. 2, everyone has their own writing style and update rate for fanfic. It’s a commodity fans are getting for free unless the writer is specifically commissioned. I personally laugh seeing the under 10k chapters I see the kids on here posting because my chapters and one shots are never under 10k no matter what I do but that doesn’t mean I shit all over their updates. I sit here clinging to them because they’re quick fun and well-crafted. No.3, You have soothed the savage beasts that are waiting for fuckers like me that never ever update to finally pick ourselves up off the floor, out of our puddles of depression, anxiety, and self-loathing to finally finish something. So that we can finally give you the novella length update or new fic you’ve been anticipating. No. 4, if this was a joke, fine haha, but no one has to bow down to any one else’s rules for this fanfic writing thing. You write at your own style at your own pace. And please don’t listen to anyone’s comments or take things like this too seriously. They’re either joking or grumpy and not worth listening to… so there.

PSA

here's your friendly reminder that firefox is a nonprofit organization and they've rolled out a bunch of ACTUAL privacy features in the past year alone, including complete built-in protection from tracking

We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

Reblogging for the very high percentage of people here who haven't received adequate sex education. No shame--this included me until a few years ago, I've participated many times myself, and I'm a nurse.

Choking is always edgeplay (i.e very risky). There is no safe way to choke someone. Even light pressure is not safe.

There is a nerve in the neck whose function is to lower heart rate. If you accidentally stimulate this nerve, it's possible to lower the heart rate to zero very quickly. This can result in sudden cardiac death in seconds. Sometimes symptoms can be minimal and they unfortunately also mimic the symptoms of low oxygenation, which are the sensations you're trying to provoke.

Also, if your partner has cholesterol buildup in the major artery leading to the brain--which there is no way to know except an angiogram--small chunks of cholesterol can break off, travel to the brain, and result in stroke. This too can initially cause minor symptoms the partner may not notice until it's too late to reverse the process.

Breathplay is no kidding my very favorite kink in the world, and I hated giving it up, but please think very, very seriously. This is a Risk Aware Consensual Kink activity, not a safe, sane, consensual one.

Adding my knowledge from the domestic violence realm, because this is a really big deal:

Having your partner wrap their hands around your throat (strangulation) is both imminently dangerous, potentially dangerous for days afterward, and unless it's something you've specifically asked them to do to you, can be a huge warning sign that you should be worried about their willingness to use violence against you.

A lot of people think the big issue is that strangulation compresses the trachea and hinders breathing. That's a thing, but what's even more dangerous is the compression of the blood vessels in your neck, which can directly cut off blood flow to your brain.

Even after the strangulation is over, there are potential lasting effects—brain damage, memory loss, and confusion, which often make strangulation victims very poor reporters of their own level of injury, which means that if, say, police show up following a fight, the victim might honestly say that they don't think they were hurt very much and they feel fine.

About half the time they will have very small visible symptoms, like bruises on their neck, a raspiness to their voice, very small red specks on the skin of their neck or face, or burst vessels in their eyes. Half the time they won't.

Which is not always a great way to tell which of them, in the days afterwards, will have a blood clot travel into their brain and cause a stroke, or will experience seizures and memory issues over the next several months or years. Those things might not be spotted without specialized medical attention and tests. If you've ever been strangled, tell a doctor; it may still be putting you at medical risk.

And aside from the medical risks, there are indicators that someone who has survived being strangled by an intimate partner is at a much higher risk of being a homicide victim. That basically, the willingness to strangle as an act of aggression can signal that they are more willing and able to actually kill you.

The context in which I first learned about breathplay was a peer of my parents going to prison for killing his wife "accidentally" while choking her during sex. Seeing people talking about choking as a casual kink has always freaked me out.

Wild in the notes people like "it's an entry-level kink but you could also kill someone with it" THAT'S NOT WHAT WE MEAN BY ENTRY-LEVEL

Do what you want, I'm not a cop, but please for God's sake be aware of the risks. And if someone chokes you during sex without extensive negotiation beforehand that person is not safe, because they either have no idea what the risks are or don't care.

Out of Context WIPs game

Tagged by @weilongfu

THE RULES: Pick a bunch of your WIPs and summarize them as badly as possible, then ask your followers to vote on which one they’d be most likely to read. multiple/all/none options are completely optional.

Tagging: @the-pen-pot, @savedbyholmes, @buckyalpine, @georgiapeach30513, @kinanabinks

Any mutuals I failed to tag that want to do this feel free to @ me and demand I tag you.

Comment, like, reblog!

Reblog. 1 Day left to vote!

Yesterday AO3 was inundated with spam comments accusing authors of using AI to write their fics, and today it's porn gifs. AO3 has had to turn off guest-commenting, which I have never seen before

Psh. Someone trying to ruin a good thing for everyone else.

i put as many options as i could think of (also i numbered the options so that you can put a number in the tags instead of typing your answer out uwu)

Out of Context WIPs game

Tagged by @weilongfu

THE RULES: Pick a bunch of your WIPs and summarize them as badly as possible, then ask your followers to vote on which one they’d be most likely to read. multiple/all/none options are completely optional.

Tagging: @the-pen-pot, @savedbyholmes, @buckyalpine, @georgiapeach30513, @kinanabinks

Any mutuals I failed to tag that want to do this feel free to @ me and demand I tag you.

Comment, like, reblog!

Founders knew religion was toxic and wrong for government.

“[N]o religious Test shall ever be required as a Qualification to any Office or public Trust under the United States. Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof."

Federalist Papers (1787-88)

people are way too comfortable being dismissive of children and teenagers. if a toddler comes up to you and starts explaining skibidi toilet lore or if a 13 year old asks you if you want to hear about their mha ocs you have to listen with utmost sincerity or at least pretend to. this is the only way you will get into heaven.

genuinely depressing how people will dismiss the interests kids have because all it does is make them retreat into shame and never want to talk to you about anything again

My entire life can be explained by my parents uttering variations of the sentence “yeah mmhmm that’s nice sweetie…” and dismissing whatever I’m trying to talk about because they’re either too busy, too tired, or too preoccupied with other things to listen to what I was saying. Not just randomly talking to them either out of the blue, I would say 75% of the time it was because they asked first. They were just not prepared for how long I can converse.

And I’m sure in the back of their minds it was great parenting because they weren’t like their wwii parents where they intimidated their children into submission because children were “seen and not heard” but it also wasn’t good to be like “let me check in with my child…. Okay you’re good that’s all, that’s enough. I didn’t need to hear more than that.”

Guess what? I don’t share anything that interests me with them that I knew wasn’t something they would also like. So there’s a lot they don’t know about me, a lot about myself I will never tell them & never told them. This means they’ll never know adult me. You could say I’m in the closet with my parents but my closet leads to my fandom, nerdy, kinky version of Narnia.

Talk to kids and teens and actively listen to them when you offer to listen because otherwise you’ll just be teaching them it’s better not to share.

hey

hey friend

dont kill yourself tonight ok

you have a really pretty smile and i know its not always easy to manage one but itd be a bummer if we never had the chance to see it ever again

youre really important and you matter a lot so stay safe and try and have a nice sleep

I would like a moment to thank the people who reblog post like this so that it eventually shows on my dash.

It is keeping me alive

I actually really needed this tonight, thank you

have this my friends

You, my precious follower. I want you to stick around because you make the world a better place just by existing.

Honestly. This.

And also: you are the answer to a specific question this universe is asking.

So please stick around. Don’t take yourself somewhere that means it’ll never get that answer.

You’re needed.

Please talk to me. Be really excited about talking to me and not about hurting yourself. I don’t care how late it is, what time you’re going to come to me.

I’m always around.

I'm not gonna tell americans how to vote because it's your business, but as someone from a country that went through an actual right wing dictatorship my approach to voting was never "which candidate meets my standards for them to earn my precious vote", but rather "what's the worse that can happen and how do I keep it from happening"

— Women’s health is obviously the core issue here, but the self-own of Republicans spending half a century forcing through the courts a deeply unpopular political position and now seeing those chickens come home to roost is one of the pleasures of being old enough to have witnessed nearly the entire story arc. 

Well, this is hideous.

But there is one silver lining here, which is that AZ Attorney General Kris Mayes has already released a statement declaring that she will not prosecute anyone, either doctor or abortion-seeker, under the terms of this law.

I wasn't familiar with Kris Mayes (I don't have any ties to Arizona and don't generally keep up with AGs) so I googled her, and friends: she won the 2022 AG race by 280 votes. If 281 fewer people had cast their votes for the democrat in the AZ race for attorney general in 2022, Mayes would have lost to Abraham Hamadeh, who identifies as pro-life and who went on record saying he would enforce whatever abortion law was on the books.

It's too early to know how exactly this will shake out, but it seems pretty damn important that Arizona's chief legal officer is vehemently opposed to this near-total abortion ban instead of, you know, in favor of it.

It's a garbage fire situation, but it could be a lot worse -- and if you cast a vote for Kris Mayes in the 2022 election, you are part of the reason why it's not. Like, really super for real.

Vote. Don't let anyone talk you out of it.

What the fuck is wrong with people?!?!?