So, come on. What’s your answer?

“Ladies,

If a man asks you why you’re single, I don’t care if you have to make up a whole ass LIE, do NOT tell him its because you’ve been hurt, abused and misused. DO NOT!!!

I don’t care if you have to make up some shit, I don’t care if you got to go back to your 10th grade boyfriend, you tell him its because your ex set the bar SO high, and even though ya’ll didn’t work out, you will never settle for anything less than how well you were treated. Or tell him your father was such an amazing man that you cannot bear to be with someone who treats you less than he did.

Men can hear desperation and pain and those with bad intentions LOVE hearing that shit, they hear victim, low self-esteem, easy prey, I PROMISE!! And most men will be intimidated once they find out you ain’t going for the okey-doke!! They’ll disappear if they cannot meet that made up standard!!

Plus, you get to rewrite your narrative, tell a new story which puts you on a higher vibration.

Lie yo ass off, Sis, and thank me later!!”

Phoebe Doyothing Burgess, Facebook

tell him girl

Tomb Raider (2018) starring Michaela Coel as Lara Croft

THE COCOAPUFF GIRLS

So about this project. For awhile now I’ve noticed almost every single time I see a darker skinned black woman “going viral”, she’s half naked, oiled up, and/or sexualized in some way shape or form. It’s very rarely ever “Look at this amazing dark skinned woman who accomplished this thing.” Or “Look at her smile, she’s gorgeous”.  Please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying. There is nothing wrong with darker women and black women in general being free and expressive about their sexuality and provocative features. BUT that is NOT ALL they are. They are so much more than sexual beings, but for some reason, that seems to be almost the only thing that grabs viral appreciation. So here’s my attempt to have darker skinned black women go viral for just being cute, creative, stylish, bubbly, beautiful, and black. Aside from the videographer EVERYONE involved in this project IS A BLACK WOMAN. I hope you guys like it. I ask that if you enjoyed this and agree with my objective, share it with a few people please.

A special thank you to @aggienes, I couldn’t have done this without her.

INSTAGRAM PAGES OF THOSE INVOLVED Photographer & Creative Director: @ohpenmike @ohpenmikephotos Stylist: @ohpenmikephotos & @aggie_hair Hair-Stylist: @aggie_nes @aggie_hair Graphic Designer: @pepitapepper MUA: @chidi.mma Models: @kristiatolode @misskellykel @chiepodeu @yanjusofine_

I worked on this project with @ohpenmike and other talented black artists. Enjoy 😊

It’s back

March 1989 episode of “A Different World,” “No Means No.”

This was 1989 and we’re still having to teach this shit.

STILL

“I am…so in love with you. Bitch, I know!”

FEMALE AWESOME MEME- [4/5] Female Dynamics

Issa Dee/Molly Carter - Insecure

This was literally the funniest one. Even He couldn’t help but laugh.

I like the show atlanta, but when it comes to black women, I’m very aware this show is written by black men

It also rubs me the wrong way they do interracial relationships, like the episode with the rich married black woman and white man. The white man is only with the black woman because he fetishsizes the black experience, and the black woman is only with the white man cause she’s greedy and wants his money. It’s a toxic, empty relationship.

But when it’s a black man with a white woman

it’s loving and sweet, and equal, and they ONLY show that relationship under the bitter, angry gaze of a dark skin black woman.

Like, black women know black men ain’t shit. Black women have BEEN accustomed to black men’s hatred of black women. WE KNOW. THERE’S NOTHING NEW HERE. No black woman is gonna angerily follow a black man and white woman. To us that shit is business as usual. Its expected. We know.

But you know where I do see a lot of motherfucking hate when it comes to interacial relationships????????????????

When a black woman is with a white man. Suddenly she’s a bedwench, fucking the slave master.

Like I’m fucking tired of this bullshit. This fucking narrative is played out nonsense

YESS!!! THANK YOU !@@

any time i was dating a white dude, hell, andy NON-black dude, they could have been Maori for fucks sake, and a black man WITH a white woman would decide he had to sit me down and convince me to date black men. all while his white woman looked around whistling, waiting for him to finish up.

and dont even get me started on if i date a white guy, then BOTH of them are angry. nothing like having a black man and a white woman at another table with their heads flipped around, huffing and puffing. 

See that’s the thing, when black women create media, do we demonize black men with white women? No. And trust. There’s a lot to work with. But when it comes to black women and white men, it’s a problem. Like how insecure can black men be that they not only want to step on the necks of black women to raise up white women, but once in awhile they’ll bend down and be like, “only black men will treat you like a queen, while they’re fanning their white goddess on her throne of deluded forced European beauty standards.

Or maybe what’s creating that fucking rift and keeping us thinking y'all aint shit is that you’d rather us be silent about valid fucking issues in the community that y'all need to reflect on, and pull aside your fuck boy friends, but nah, telling us to be silent is what makes you feel better, without creating any positive ACTUAL change in the community. Fuck your passive weak mentality. Plus you phrase it like black women started this. You simple anime fuck. Always the anime motherfuckers

Nigga if you don’t get the fuck outta here. “Yall are making the rift bigger” YOU ALL CREATED THE FUCKING RIFT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

My first boyfriend was white. Not bc I wanted a “plantation master” or I was insecure but because I was the darkest girl in my middle school and all of the black boys thought that was disgusting. I use to overhear them talking about me as in “she would be pretty if she was lighter but she’s too dark” “she’s cute but I couldn’t date her bc I would know when she was dirty” *insert fuckboy laughter here*. Literally, the only person who treated my like I was human was my white bf. Any people who show interest in me (in real life, not online) are white men or mixed/black women.

It’s so fucking irritating when I’m out with any white guy (even if we’re just friends) and I have black men come up to me and tell me that I’m sleeping with the enemy or give me nasty looks like their WCW isn’t extremely light or someone “foreign”. Do you think black women don’t want black love? Or just hate black men for no damn reason???

You can’t keep putting us on the back burner and then get pissed when we leave you for someone who will put us on a pedestal.

The show is written by Donald Glover and he has publicly said he best orgasm was a white girl calling him a nigger so I’m not even surprised.

The other time a black woman was dating a white man on Atlanta she “chose white” , was self hating, and thought she was better than other black people

That’s right!

I forgot about that episode! But like, they showed her as an uppity self hating black chick who betrayed her race, when like (and I don’t fully remember the episode I might be wrong) but her boyfriend seemed nice, she seemed happy, and like, that white dude supported her and wasn’t acting like a little bitch like glovers character was.

Plus, Vanessa had that fine ass white dude into her, like, where the fuck is he??? Like, with that dude it was the first time in the whole ass show where she was happy and laughing. Usually she’s just disappointed, anxious, frustrated, or angry. But for once she was genuinely having a good time with that dude, but it’s overshadowed by Glovers insecurities and selfishness

Non Black women never hop on black male empowerment post and derail them talking about “all men are handsome ”.They’ll reblog the fuck outta black male appreciation post talking about “omg,I love chocolate 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍”, but as soon as they see a post uplifting BW yall hoes turn into the rainbow coalition. GTFOH.

S/O to individuals who keep it real and on point. #blacklivesmatter