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The queen of hearts

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Yarn is so scary 'cause you'll look down and there'll be so much of it and there'll be so much of it for so long. Like I think it'll never run out. The all of a sudden you look down and there's nothing left.

Like I don't know what the manufacturers are putting it in to make it do that but it sure isn't yarn.

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Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,Β  snarkily say,Β β€œSo, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say,Β β€œWhy can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the wordΒ β€œfinally”.Β 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

Encouragement and acknowledgment are so much more effective than punishment.

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