my 8 year old has some emotional regulation difficulties, and I've done my best to help him with those.

unrelated, I gave him a shovel a couple of days ago and told him to go have fun in the field because I was tired.

He suddenly seemed happier, having less trouble breathing through disappointment and just being generally all around more cheerful and able to focus in school better. Sure, my partner had to pull him out of a six foot by three foot hole today, but he was stoked about it!

Marked places in the yard where I needed holes and he happily dug them and helped me plant trees, then helped me turn the compost pile and dig the garden beds. He is happy, my back isn't killing me, and we have discussed erosion and soil quality with the gravitas of an 8 year old discovering something they enjoy

Congrats on your future landscaper. Make sure he catches you reading books that will take him up a good path to a rewarding career.

Or gravedigger. Boy might just be in it for the holes.

Finally, a piece of Fallout media in a whole decade where I can enjoy all the good stuff about modern Fallout, (the aesthetic and historical references, the apocalyptic landscapes, charming and moving characters) without all the bad stuff about modern Fallout (actually playing the game)

something i enjoy about blitzø as well is that he's not a typical leading man for an action show, nor is he a typical leading man for a queer show. he's capable and got that "extremely bad at communication" thing down you might see in a lot of narratives about straight guys (especially straight guys who shoot guns) but i think is less explored with queer men, and he's also incredibly camp without any shame attached to queerness itself, he crossdresses, he's a punky goth gay, he flirts relentlessly (and often unhealthily) to get what he wants, he's got that kinky switch energy, and he's exuberant, and emotionally closed off, and incredibly rude, and very sad, and very caring, and very action-hero/anti-hero, and all in a narrative that explores these dynamics from an explicitly queer point of view.

i think it's amazing that he's as well-received as he is, considering how much he exists outside of clear categories for what people think a character "should" be, but i've seen him play well for bro-ey types as well as the most faggoty audience members (that's me), and the translation isn't for the queer audience to make, it's for straight audiences to get onboard with a complex queer character and it clearly works!

there's really something to be said about the queer lens for both of the shows, but i do think blitzø has such a specific fascinating pov for what one might call the "badass action guy who's also great at seduction" type character. he's really hitting some extremes for the spectrum of how one typically allows characters to exist

a queer masculinity in a genre show

Multiple people have said VIBES and my brain is actually melting.

Like topics and personal preference for one.

Manga is alphabetical.

From right to left. Manga in order of series I like best being at eye level and in order of volume

DVDs by anime then favorite movies then TV collections

Tier 1 fiction with favorite authors at easy reaching level and series with books in order number

Philoplsply, then religion, then social sciences then hard sciences

Tier 2 fiction

Books of art,

books about doing art,

trpg rulebooks,

comic omnibus's,

poetry,

how to write,

oversized nonfiction

Tier 3 fiction

reading this deposition that just got dropped where someone sued musk and ohhhh my god it is this funniest thing ever . i can see why his lawyer tried to keep this confidential . they’re both maybe the biggest idiots . this is like ace attorney

PLEASE read this

bankston is my HERO he’s tearing these people apart

damn

HE LEFT

????

oh my god

KILL HIM

he is DONE.

HELP ME .

wow. ok.

genuinely first two pages he says that he thinks ben’s lawyer is the one who is actually suing him and admits he has no clue what the lawsuit is about .

doing a reread now this is so cunty

goddamn .

fun fact: the Mr. Bankston here is Mark Bankston, the same lawyer who absolutely ruined Alex Jones during the Sandy Hook trial.

im noticing a pattern here and i want to decipher it.

honestly you can just vote off of vibes and i'd prefer that

im noticing a pattern here and i want to decipher it. lets go by us height standards for people who NEED actual numbers, but again just vote off of vibes its fine either way:

oh and RB this for sample size bc im wildly curious how this works

The height of the person does not directly influence how attractive they are to me HOWEVER I am short and gay so the people I'm attracted to are almost always taller than me

I don't have a preference really but almost everyone who has ever asked me out has been taller

$50,000 immediately dropped into my bank account wouldn't improve EVERYTHING but boy it sure would be a grand, sexy little start to a good, happy life path, don't you think

Reblog for unexpected $$$ dropping into your Bank account.

uhh did i forget how time works or was the first post in december 2018 and the second in august 2018

Reblog for time travelling $$$ dropping into your Bank account.

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Sometimes I approach my shrines and just sort of stand there. Like, I don't pray, make offerings, or anything. I'll just stand there and look at it. Or sit next to it.

For a while, this made me feel strange and a little guilty, even. But now I look to how I do similarly with my parents. I'll just go and sit quietly with them, or go lean on them. Just take comfort in their presence.

The Gods ARE our divine parents, after all.

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This was such a formative movie

This shit was revolutionary for the mid-90s. Among other things it helped me understand that transgender and cross-dressing were completely separate things.

To this day, I am in awe of the fact that Patrick Swayze not only campaigned hard to get the audition, not only auditioned in dress and makeup, but spent most of the day leading up to the audition walking around LA in dress and makeup.

This was a man who could sing, dance, act, ride a horse, fight, and walk in heels, he had nothing to prove to anyone, and he is MISSED.

Okay, I’m not done feeling about this.

If you’re younger, you may not know Patrick Swayze; he was Taken From Us in 2009. But Patrick Swayze was an icon of masculinity. Men were willing to watch romantic movies because Patrick Swayze was in them.

Patrick Swayze was fucking beefcake.

And this man didn’t just agree to do a movie where the only time he’s not actually in drag is the first three minutes, which involve stepping out of the shower, doing make up, and getting Dressed. He has ONE LINE that is delivered in a man’s voice, and it’s not during those three minutes.

And if you watch those three minutes, you see a stark difference between his portrayal of Miss Vida Bohéme and Wesley Snipes as Noxeema Jackson. (I am not criticizing Snipes’ performance. They were different roles.) Noxeema was a comedy character. Chi-Chi was a comedy character. But Miss Vida Bohéme was a dramatic role, played by a dramatic powerhouse.

When Vida sits down in front of the mirror, she sees a man. And she doesn’t like it.

Then she puts her hair up, and her face lights up.

“Ready or not,” she says. “Here comes Mama.”

And while Noxeema is having fun with her transformation (at one point breaking into a giggling fit after putting on pantyhose), Vida is simply taking pleasure in bringing out her true self. And when she’s done, she sees this:

And you can FEEL her pride.

All of this from an actor who, up to this point, walked on to the screen and dripped testosterone.

the fact that some of you history-ignorant children in the notes are trying to shit on groundbreaking historical queer cinema because it doesn’t meet 2021 standards is infuriating. sit down, shut the fuck up, and listen to the elders in the room for fucking once

This. If you have never lived in a world where queerness was universally pathologized and criminalized to the point that even IMAGINING a world where it wasn’t constituted a radical and potentially dangerous act, you don’t have any business judging those of us who have for how we survived it and how we found (or still find) comfort in the few imperfect representations we got.

You don’t have to like it. You probably aren’t capable of “getting” it. And to be honest, I don’t want you to! I am glad that young queer people will never know exactly what it was like “back then.” But what you also will not do is refuse to learn your own history and then shit on everything that came before you, because like it or not what came before you is the reason you will never have to get what it was like back then.

On Wesley Snipes’s role Noxeema and John Leguizamo as Chi-Chi Rodriguez.

Source: How Hollywood heartthrobs and Steven Spielberg helped make a drag queen cult classic

a monumental film in the library of queer history.

it was formative for modern society, too.

there are a lot of action fans out there who learned from their idols that respect doesn’t cost a damn thing to give. i know plenty of people who aren’t queer saw trans women and drag queens presented as people to them for the first time in wong fu. suddenly, strange and foreign queer identities that had only been presented to them as jokes if they’d even heard of them, seemed a little more relatable, and very human.

we’re all just people.

snipes, swayze, and leguizamo were willing to play people a lot of their fans didn’t respect yet or didn’t even know how to respect and demand they figure it the fuck out.

It’s also worth noting Leguizamo has gone on the record to say he brought his own experiences to the role; Chichi is wearing makeup too light for her natural skin tone through most of the movie, and swearing to stop doing so is part of her growth. Leguizamo based this on observation of his own female family members growing up.

-John Leguizamo, Out Magazine

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Dec 16, 2023

#one of the reasons this movie even made it into production is because Robin Williams did a cold read for Steven Spielberg#and Robin (being the king of allys that he was) put his all into it so much that Spielberg was quote “mesmerized”#and made the efforts to get into full production#Robin was also considered for a lead role but (rightly) felt he would overshadow the other leads#so he instead took a small UNCREDITED roll in the beginning#Spielberg meanwhile fought tooth and nail to keep the director (Beeban Kidron) from being let go because she was pregnant#and also fought to have the original script changed to have Chichi achieve her dream and win the pageant at the end#what I’m saying is there’s a whole lot of love and a whole lot of allyship and a whole lot of respect in here#and i’ll be DAMNED if I hear a bunch of young queers shit talk it because they weren’t there when it happened

I stumbled across this movie on TV one day years ago and was fascinated by it. By the sincerity of it to the love within it to the story itself, every part if it was imbedded in my brain. I’m cisgender, but I think this was the first time I’d seen a drag or a trans character in any media where 1) they were the main characters, and 2) they weren’t there to set up some sort of ‘oh my god, you actually dated a man!’ punchline/reveal. And that alone is something that stuck with me.

I haven’t seen the movie since that one time, but it’s one I’ve always wanted to revisit and I recently bought it on DVD and can’t wait to watch it again.

That’s exactly it. This was a mainstream movie, released nationwide, and it was the first time most people– queer or not– got to see that. Straight people (even most queer people hadn’t heard the term “cisgendger” yet, as it had been coined on a usenet newsgroup only a year before– and if you need me to explain what a usenet newsgroup is, no you don’t, because that’s my point) went to the see this movie because it was a comedy starring Patrick Fucking Swayze and Wesley Goddamn Snipes (John Leguizamo was great, but he wasn’t a draw yet), and came out with a little perspective that they’d never been exposed to before.

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official cover illustrations from the tgcf simplified cn revised edition!

bonus illustrations for the book box ♡

kuri huang, the illustrator, who also did the covers of strike the zither, posted the HD cover illustrations of the revised edition of tgcf on twitter! here's the link to their post on twitter~ make sure to leave comments on their tweet ♥️

VOL 1

little guy is one sniff old and seeing so many wonderful things in this big and large world