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We're some teenagers wanting to make this dark world a little better by helping people. We're here to give out advice, or just be an ear to listen to about anything, really! Just to be clear, we're not professionals of any kind, we just share from personal experiences. (If you are in any threat to your mental/physical health, please contact your nearest emergency center immediately!) Our inbox is always open for you, and we try to answer your message as fast as possible. If you message us off anon we will answer your message privately.
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deathis-here asked:

You can also talk to her calm like and ask why she does it if she can not admit to having an issue or having anger of some type then you must explain all the times that were abusive events if not tell them you are sorry but until you talk to someone about this I can not be with you and grow some distance. Yes it will be hard as hell it will make you want to crawl and beg for her back but you cant because it can continue. This is to the anon with an abusive lover. I am sorry if this is offensive

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I don't think it posted on the page, but it stayed in our inbox, so here it goes. I don't see how it would be offensive, though offense is taken rather than given, so what do I know? Maybe it was offensive for me to say to stand up for herself. I'll see. If keyboard warriors disprove, they'll certainly let me know.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm in a lesbian relationship and I am the more masculine one of the two.. Only thing is my gf is the abusive one... Emotionally and physically... I never thought in my life that I would be with someone who got mad at me and screamed at me and blamed me for me getting hurt... I love this girl a lot but I feel trapped... What can I do?

Being a hetero male, I'm going to have to assume that the situation stays roughly the same whether you're in a homosexual or heterosexual relationship and whether you're a female or male. I hope I'm right in that assumption. First, you could talk to her about it. When she's abusive, stand up for yourself. Tell her to back off. You could also talk to other people who know both of you. I'm going to make another assumption that you are at last partially open about being a lesbian and that at least some others know, otherwise I'm not sure how you'd be in your situation. Anyway, you could talk to people who know you both and it should help open better communication so that problems can be worked out rationally rather than by means of abuse.

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Anonymous asked:

3) should i do if she tells anyone ?im asking anonymous because she knows my tumblr and im scared she could see this.i dont want to tell my parents about it becaus im over it to the point where i know it would only get worse again if everyone knew :(i thought i knew her very well but now i lost the person that knew my darkest secrets and gained myself a threat that could ruin the life i build myself up with a ton of effort :(

Yes. It seems that the best option is to talk things out with her rationally. If there is anything else, we are here for you. Also, if you ask off-anon, we will not publish the reply. It will be sent to your inbox. That is only if it is you're preference. Whatever works for you.

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Anonymous asked:

2)they end up breaking up again. i just cant have a friendship like that anymore. the problem is just that im scared she will end up telling my family about everything i told her if ignore her.i know theyll break up again so its just a matter of time.i told her everything because she is 6 years older than me and because i thought i could trust her but im not so sure anymore. i pretty much stopped self harming and im doing really good nowadays, i know i can fully get over this myself but what-

Sorry. I didn't see part 2 until after the first reply. Maybe you can talk to her about how you feel. Give her reasons for it Ann's explain why it hurts. You two can talk things out rationally and things will her better with time.

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Anonymous asked:

1)i started self harming when i was around 13-14 and im 17 now. there is only 1 person who knows, she knows literally every single thing, and she is in a toxic relationship and stops talking to me (well shes not allowed to i guess) on and off. this year she stopped talking to me again,blocking me everywhere (we dont live in the same country), and even though i really like her im tired of her treating me like this. i decided that i will most likely ignore her and dont talk to her again whenever -

Well, we can't really make you continue to talk to her, so it is really your decision. If you think it is best to stop, do that. If thou don't want to, don't stop. It's up to you. You are under your control. Just know that we are here for you if you need anything.

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Anonymous asked:

I haven't cut myself for almost 6 months, but the urges are getting stronger and stronger and I don't know how long I can fight them anymore. I thought it was supposed to get easier. Will the urges ever go away, or will I just have to fight them every day for the rest of my life? Because I don't think I am strong enough for that...

One of the members of our blog, Emily has posted some alternatives to self-harm which seem to work very well and we have gotten positive feedback from it. I also recommend that you find some lovely hobbies. Maybe sculpting or drawing. As time progresses, the urges should decrease. Time will go on and life will change and you can always make things better. We love you and are here for you always.

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