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................slime girl

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flan | 31 | she/her | i'm just here for the vibes lol
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it is soooo cool how people's takeaway from the original baeddel group being abusive is "now i have a bad word to pin to any transfem i disagree with" and not that trans women as a gender class are incredibly vulnerable to abuse

it is a crapshoot if a queer or woman's safe space will be safe for us or see us as a dangerous predatory intruder. we are categorically the lowest income bracket when sorted by gender. we face the same risk of alienation from our families as other queer demographics. our bodies are lusted after, and at the same time we are denied the ideological position of victim, assumed to be sexual beings by default.

it is a perfect cocktail to create ideal victims of abuse, girls who are used for sex or attention or defense and disposed of once we're done with. a demographic full of people with no safe spaces, with no money, no connections, and who no one will bother to defend. who can, at any moment, be pedojacketed or accused of being racist or predatory or abusive, and the punishment will be carried out by mob justice.

i really just want non-transfeminine people to stare this in the face. i know so many transfems with horror stories about their friend groups- both cishet and queer- turning on them, of the isolation and poverty. this is what transmisogyny is. this is why so many of us categorically delineate ourselves from the wider queer community. if you can not recognize this, your opinion on transmisogyny or "solidarity" or "intersectionality" is nothing to me.

TME people in general tend to act as though transmisogyny is only the most visible effects- assault, bathroom laws, etc. And don't get me wrong, that is an awful, awful part of it, and other queer people are very much also victims of these things. But transfemininity specifically is marked in a very subtle, inescapable way that so many TME people clearly do not understand.

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