while I do agree with the sentiment of “ask yourself why you don’t want to call yourself bisexual” I think some of YALL need to ask yourselves AND bi women why they don’t want to call themselves bisexual, because some of yall literally can’t fathom why a bi woman wouldn’t want to be bi
being a lesbian obviously isnt easier than being bi, but being bi isn’t easier than being a lesbian either, and its a fact that within wlw circles being a lesbian is still considered superior than being bisexual, and often being a wlw is still considered synonymous with being a lesbian: lesbian love, lesbian couple, lesbian relationship, lesbian wedding, etc.
bi women talk about their experience of being rejected simply for being bisexual, of people doubting their commitment to lgbt liberation and feminism because they’re still attracted to men, of constantly having to hear everyone complain about how annoying and toxic and awful we are, but y'all think it’s as simple as saying “its okay to be bi I promise lol” like they’re gonna be like “oh yeah sorry I totally didn’t think of it that way, I love myself and my bisexuality now.”
it’s shocking the lack of compassion some of you have for bi women. if a bi woman calls herself a lesbian instead of bi just because its easier to date women that way yalls first thought isn’t “wow she must have a lot of internalized biphobia to reach a point where she thinks she might as well just call herself a lesbian if she wants to be in relationships with women”, its “oh my god this horrible nonlesbian she’s totally leading lesbians on by not calling herself bi, that’s so toxic and evil, she’s going to try to lead her into a threesome with a man”
and as much as I hate “bi lesbian” being a thing I really don’t think y'all are aware of why a bi woman would think being bi is not enough, so like maybe think for a second instead of immediately jumping to the conclusion that it’s because all these people are selfish infiltrators who think lesbian should just mean wlw again (which…..I mean again that’s something that’s definitely supported by the language that’s often used so maybe we should think about that too)
so like do me a favor and do a LITTLE more for us than “bi/lesbian solidarity!! it’s okay to be bi!!” like actually do the work and show unconditional love and support for bi women, shut down biphobia and deplatform unapologetic biphobes, don’t immediately discount a bi woman as a romantic partner just because she’s bi, show compassion for bi women with internalized biphobia that’s hurting themselves, make room for bisexuals in your spaces and stop equating being a wlw to being a lesbian, and then maybe you will start seeing bi women who embrace being bisexual.
god red your tags mwah chef kiss yes all of this exactly what I’m saying
